Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

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How do you love through change? Loussays the hardest thing he ahd to love through before the Starting Over house is anger. jennifer says through Lou’s infidelity. Kacie says resistance and no emotions. Simon says a time he felt void of love was right before coming to Starting Over House because he really disliked his daughter and didn’t want a relationship with ehr because he felt unloved and uncared for. Troy says the time was when they separated and he felt alone.
Unconditional love and how you can love through change.
--Release all judgment
--Assume innocence
--Give your partner what you want given to you
--Your partner is not your parent
--Think higher of your partner than their behavior indicates.

They go around and talk about their judgments. Iyanla tells them to remember partner is not the parent. Unconditional love is about giving to everybody. If you don’t give it all your love you don’t get any love at all. Today is about change. Iyanla tells the Starting Over Guests tonight is a Board of Review. Kacie is nervous, scared and anxious about the BOR.

Iyanla talks to Simon and Kacie and tells them they are nicer to themselves and they have a hard time communicating. Simon gets angry when Kacie doesn’t agree and Iyanla tells Simon he needs to listen.

We see Jenn outside painting again motivated and having fun. She is painting with her face and has paint all over herself and she says she feels free.

Lou is working on the budget and says it’s total confession.

Iyanla sis back with Simon and Kacie and growing up. Simon’s anger wasn’t acknowledged. He learned in childhood to shut down. His first thought is to leave to diffuse the situation when angry. When Simon is angry he can’t hear anything else. Iyanla says that when Simon leaves the room he takes the anger with him. Simon needs to be able to have his anger acknowledged.

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