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I agree that staying together FOR the kids is a bad idea. Because of what Danny's daughter has experience living with her parents, she has taken on the role of little caretaker. She feels responsible for making her parents calm down and be happy. It is very sad. I don't think Danny or Gretchen GET IT. THey don't see what they have created in their dauthter. I hope the therapist explained it to them. Danny is in essence still a child. He throws tantrums to get his way just like a kid. His daughter is much more mature than he is.
Last year when my brother and his wife separated, my 12 year old nephew, who is normally quiet and withdrawn, became open, friendly and more happy than I had ever seen him. He appeared to be relieved his parents were separated. I don't think it was an act either.
THey reconciled and have now split several more times. The kids are no doubt very damaged from it. I had dinner with my brother last night and begged him to think of the kids and move on. He wants to make it work and his wife wants a divorce. (They have 4 children). It's none of my business, but, if you have a spouse who is in constant conflict with you and refuses to go to counseling, what are you to do? My brother resorted to drugs, which made everything much worse and now he is in treatment for that in addition to his failed marriage. It' will be the first divorce in my family, so it is a major tradegy.
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