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I am so glad to see other's agree with Lisa's behavior. It seems LIsa is going after her "soft" spots...This is a form of manipulation.......I hope she gets called on it. I couldn't believe when they were looking up Prostitutes on the computer and couldn't see the insensitivity in it?

Christina is a survivor.....she's already proved that is so open to making peace with her past and her goal.

Lisa true colors are coming out.....jmho

Just remember that Lisa has been given to all her life. She really doesn't know how to make ends meet when life is handing you lemons. I am not defending her at all.
She has no clue what it is like not to have food, clothing, shelter, etc., her parents always gave them to her.

As for Christine (this should probably go into the Christine board) I give her credit for trying to make ends meet. Her husband left her and her child. Anyone who is a parent, and a devoted one will do just about anything to support their children...Lisa goes to her parents....how easy is that.

I think they need to give Lisa a real dirty job to do so that she can understand what hard work really is.

I also think Lisa has no boundries and doesn't respect others'. The invasion of Christina's privacy and then the sharing of the letter outloud shows she really has no understanding of what's socially correct. Sometimes I wonder if it's that she really doesn't "get it" or if she really doesn't want to and that's why she is constantly deflecting any of her REAL issues? I see potential in her (as in every housemate) but she has to be willing to actually DO the hard work to have success!

There comes a point in everyone's life where we must stop justifying our actions and simply stop the action.

Justification is an ugly word to me thanks to some time spent connected to a rehab.

I think that in essence, this is what every houseguest, past, present and future must face.

Lisa will inevitably try to justify her actions with the letters; it's human nature to do so afterall. What I want to see is her realization that it is indeed justification and to hear her truly admit she screwed up and begin not to atone for her sins exactly, but learn from them so she can stop repeating them in the future.

Wow Lisa does have a huge issue with Boundaries. Maybe the Coaches will give her some exercises with actual physical boundaries to represent the ones she doesn't know exist.

excellent idea Tara!

she has to see the boundaries before she can learn not to cross them afterall.