Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

LOL It looks like I am talking to myself because we can't add on or edit messages.

Anyway, I just wanted to add that 3 times a day is out of the question. That's some kind of domination trip he's got going. Any man who thinks a woman can get passionate when she knows she's going to be there again in a couple hours, or was just there a couple hours ago, and no end in sight, has been reading too much Playboy. And any woman who says she can be passionate 3 times a day every day is either faking or psycho.

I can relate to what Kacie is going through. I was abused/molested as a child and my impression is that because of Iyanla and Rhonda's lack of clinical training they minimize her issues. One can recover from this sort of trauma, but you can't do it on command, and others do have to be patient with the survivor until they do recover if they truly accept her. I don't think she is manipulating by crying and I feel it was insensitive of Iyanla to say that she was. I noticed that when Simon cried in the same session Iyanla gave him a hug and validated his feelings, while kind of making Kacie the bad guy. I can see why she felt nobody was in her side. I think Kacie's problems are way out of the two life-coaches league and so they should not presume to put time-limits or "shoulds" on how soon she should get over it.

Really Dr. Stan should be the one working with her primarily since he has the training to deal with PTSD, which it's clear she has, much in the same way as Megg had her phobias which were so severe that the life-coaches did not make judgements because they seemed to know they lacked the expertise to comment on it.

This is very dangerous territory for non-professionals to muck around in. Encouraging alot of self-recrimination in someone with a history of that kind of repeated abuse and no stable and supportive parental figure is just asking for a crisis.