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LaurenB wrote:

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Jill has been out of the SO house for a year.....what has she accomplished? Obviously not a job? Has anythin changed for Jill since she both entered and left the SO house? Just curious?

According to this blog... it sounded like Jill has gained self acceptance... that's a biggie... some people go through life and never have it.

mazzy wrote:

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LaurenB wrote:

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Jill has been out of the SO house for a year.....what has she accomplished? Obviously not a job? Has anythin changed for Jill since she both entered and left the SO house? Just curious?

According to this blog... it sounded like Jill has gained self acceptance... that's a biggie... some people go through life and never have it.

what does this mean? Self acceptance??? aCCEPT THAT SHE HAS NO JOB? Accept that she is morbidly obeise...Accept that she robbed her mother of her money....???? What?

She's out of a job because she was lied to about a better job in an area she had always wanted to do. Was it her lack of skills or laziness that put here at jobless... NO. A lot of men and women find ourselves in that position. Some companies makes themselves look good when in reality they aren't. (Like retail stores that say they have benefits upfront but don't tell you it takes 3 years to get them). A lot of us got a raw deal at something that looked promising.

She has learned from her past, it's up to her mother and her mother alone to forgive her for what was done to HER by Jill. It's up to Jill to learn from her errors and her sins to do better and be a better person. I've known people who used and used and used others and placed the blame on their "victims". Jill came away from her SO experience taking the blame for the action she did.

Also she began to see the positive things about herself and others around her... who else can say the same thing???? There are some out there that only see the negative (like my father- God himself can come down and saint someone or they can win the Nobel Peace Prize and he'll have something negative to say) .... So I respect that in Jill.

Yes she's fat... she knows she's fat... Self hatred can lead to being fat... She's begun to love herself... There are some skinny, beautiful, and talented people out there that hate themselves. I'd rather be around a fat loving person whose positive than a physically "fit" woman who hates herself and is always negative. One thing I learned is if you truly love yourself- you don't hate others... might not like them but the hate is not there.

I like Jill because she's not sitting back being self righteous. She knows she goofs up and makes major mistakes but at least she has been trying to do better and I can respect that.