Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Wow, did I ever get it today when I saw Lori crying about her husband's death and having to reconnect with friends that knew John.

My friend in college, who was a bridesmaid in my wedding, lost her husband after a quick illness. He actually introduced my husband and myself. We were so close, and after her husband died, she didn't keep in touch.

I felt like Lori's friend on the phone today, I thought I did something, or she was mad at me. Chances are, I just remind her of her husband, and of the times when we all were happy and carefree, looking upon life as a long journey forward, together.

I have sent her letters and notes occasionally. I just got ahold of her address, and sent her a postcard. I know the power of prayer, and she is in mine. Is there anyhting else I can do for her? It has been almost 10 years, and I hear she is not doing so well, she still "sees and talks" to him.

I so wish she would call me out of the blue, and we could talk again

Or could you call her? Invite her out for lunch or for a walk in a park??

I was even thinking you could send a note saying I am here for you .Whenever you are ready to talk. Just letting her know that your still care will probably mean so much to her.
Heather

hsmom
I so agree with the responses already here. I know it must have being hard on you not really understanding all this time how she may have felt inside.
Watching Lori struggle with having to meet and just talk with her old friends, because of the connection with John and them touched me too.

I have a dear and loving friend and after two years of talking every-day, and seeing each other quite a bit she just stopped calling and emailing me.
I truly thought I had done something to hurt her or make her mad at me
I cried for hours sometimes because I missed our talks and her support in my life.
I did as you said and prayed for her to be able to one day tell me WHY and what I had done to hurt her so bad she no longer wanted me to write.
Well it was over a year later but she did call me one day out of the blue.
She told me what had happened and why she for herself and her needs she had to pull away from me, but not only me she had to be alone to grow, and go through something on her own.
So pray for God to send her back to you when the time for both of you is right
I was ready long ago but she was not. I am so glad to have her back in my life when
She was ready.
Hope I did not talk to much about this and hope you understand a bit more about your friend
I talk to my dear mother in-law who passed away over 17 years ago.. I miss her dearly and tell her often that I still love her and ask she to help me when I am looking for answers.
Hugs

If I were you, if she is a friend, then call her and tell her how you feel. I believe honestyis the best way , even if it might hurt.
Good luck

LOL !!!! I'm alittle late with my answer. April is when she wrote that lol !!!!! Oh well, did you call her or get in touch with her???