Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

This is my first post to this site. I was a fan of Staring Over and really, really, ...really miss it.

I'm having trouble dealing with a few things but will start here.

I had to move back to my home town last year or have to live in my car. Basically my life has been a bad country song...lost my job, lost my house, estranged from my son. To top everything else I had to put my the best dog in the world to sleep earlier this year.

I had to stay with a cousin-in-law for a while. I was an un-freeloader in that I did pay her rent when I finally got a food job as well as clean her house and buy groceries.

This is the problem. After I moved out in April I've only heard from her three times. My cousin (her husband) died from a brain tumor a few years ago and she's trying to see her house. She only calls me to help her fix her house. We live in an area where there are several little towns close to each other. I live in the bigger of the towns and that is where the majority of the shopping is.

I've been out to her place, 30 mile drive, a few times since April but quit driving out there when she couldn't drop by or call me. I called her on her birthday and invited her to dinner but she declined. She asked when my birthday was but she didn't call me.

I had some of my mail going to her house. I had changed my address with my bank but for some reason the change didn't go through. I found this out when I had ordered checks and I didn't get them.

I'm hurt and disappointed. I do realize i don't have any expectation of her calling but I am disappointed. She called the other day and wanted to know if I wanted to go to dinner with her and some friends to celebrate one of the friends birthday. She said she loves to celebrate birthday.

I know she saved me from living in my car but I'm hurt. I'm also tired of one-sided relationships.