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Wow! Thanks Nadia!

Only just recently broken up? (last Wednesday)..

But yes, it did seem like the writing was on the wall even to us.
Sounds like she is still dealing with the grief of it all...


I feel for her.. I do hope that she bounces back and not dealing with prolonged depression. That blog sure sounded depressed though...at least to me..

My heart goes out to her. Boy, have I been there. It's such a painful thing to try to get through. I mean, if the two love each other why can't it work out? I have asked myself that question before about my failed relationships and never could get an answer.

When you get to be near our age and don't have a life partner, things can look pretty dismal. You begin to wonder what in the heck is wrong with yourself. I know I do sometimes.

I think because Rhonda is such a professional that she is supposed to know the answers of how to deal with these kind of losses, but I'm sure she must still have real insecurites about herself when love just refuses to cooperate in her life.

A part of me does question if Mr. Love-A-Lot had too much on his plate with his young daughter.

I noticed a couple days ago that she had a new blog entry.. I checked this morning and can report 2 new ones now.. The first new one was about her going camping by herself down the Oregon coast. The second which was done yesterday is a painful reflection of how she is feeling and dealing with her recent broken relationship..

I wonder if she used some of the more recent blogs to communicate with him.. In her last blog she seems very upset that he hasn't called her at all.. to check on her or anything..

Anyway, it's sad... I feel for her.

She hasn't talked about anything regarding her business or project endeavors in quite a while.

She should go talk to Dr. Stan!

I agree KPW. I read her latest 2 blogs and reread the one in which she announces the breakup. I'm a little confused. The one containing the initial announcement sounds like a different story from the last 2.

Who is she talking about calling names in the blog she talks about camping on the Oregon coastline? Her boyfriend or her father? I found that blog confusing.

Is she working? It seems as if she has been doing a lot of lone activities, even before the breakup. Remember that wilderness trip that she was totally alone for quite a few days and she fasted the entire time?

How can you afford to go on those kinds of excursions and not work? When she first bought her house, she didn't sound as if she was rolling in dough. Maybe she has come into some money and doesn't have to work much now. Maybe she has clients and works but doesn't mention them, but wouldn't your clients need you while you are out camping and traveling for weeks on end. Just saying....

The gut wrenching things she is saying I have said too. It hurts like heck and there is really nothing you can do except let time lessen the pain or if you're lucky meet a new guy who is crazy about you. I know, that sounds like rebound man, but hey. I've done it both ways and I prefer meeting a new man quick. It helps take your mind off the ex. Besides, it always felt good to go out on the town with a new handsome boyfriend on my arm. News of my good fortune would certainly get back to my ex through the rumor mill and that made me feel great! I didn't want the ex to think I was sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. Yes, I do have some mischief in me when my man does me wrong. LOL.

Another inconsistency I see in her blogs is that she says the breakup happened suddently, but previously she says he told her to leave months ago. Maybe I'm reading it wrong.

I know Rhonda suffered from alcoholism, but did she also have any depression issues? She sounds very troubled. I agree with KPW. I hope she is seeing someone for some therapy. She sounds like she needs it. I wonder if Dr. Stan ever checks her blog out.<br><br>Post edited by: Debby, at: 2007/09/07 14:38

New blog notice...

Whew.... I sure think she's gotta vendetta going on or something. She's pretty much airing 'obscure' dirty laundry.. Maybe it's part of her self therapy.. But seems to be directed to him more than anyone else.

And yes, there ARE 2 sides to every story.. I get the impression she is shooting down his side to the story.

Time to move on Rhonda..

Here is a quick link to the blog.. I noticed there hasn't been a direct link put in this thread.. (although you can read it if you click on SO Blogs in the main menu.
http://www.fearlessliving.org/blog/rhonda<br><br>Post edited by: KPW1956, at: 2007/09/15 19:29

KPW1956 wrote:

QUOTE:
New blog notice...

Whew.... I sure think she's gotta vendetta going on or something. She's pretty much airing 'obscure' dirty laundry.. Maybe it's part of her self therapy.. But seems to be directed to him more than anyone else.

And yes, there ARE 2 sides to every story.. I get the impression she is shooting down his side to the story.

Time to move on Rhonda..

Here is a quick link to the blog.. I noticed there hasn't been a direct link put in this thread.. (although you can read it if you click on SO Blogs in the main menu.

http://www.fearlessliving.org/blog/rhonda&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Post edited by: KPW1956, at: 2007/09/15 19:29

I think it took a lot of courage to share her feelings on her blog... they sure sounded real and honest, however, I wouldn't want to be in her life if I knew that she would &quot;blog about me.&quot; LOL. I guess Mr. Love A Lot knew what he was getting into... even when he decided to get out.