Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

hi everybody...
i'm new here and i have no idea what i'm doing.
i'm younger then most people here i'm sure...
i'm young but have a lot of problems.
i've tried killing myself more then twice

i've pretty much screwed my future up.
i just need someone to talk to and understand because i really wanna change my life around.

thanks!

suicide_gurl

You'd best find someone you can talk to in person. We are a small community that enjoyed an older NBC show which is gone. So are many of our members. Just a few of us stragglers who banter about this that and the other..

You are young.. You need a mentor or someone who can give you sound advice. You can turn your life around no matter how much you think you've screwed it up. You just need some perspective, some time and some guidance.

If you are still in school, seek out a counselor there.
I'm sure you have family and close friends who care about you and could encourage you.

I don't want to give you specific advice as I don't know the situation.

There should be a suicide prevention line available and they can counsel you.. Your personal or family doctor might also be able to get into some resources.

For what it's worth, alot of people messed up when they were teens or young adults and have been able to turn their lives around. I think it's great that you acknowledge the desire to turn it around.. That is great way to start.

One day you might even look back, and think it could have been alot worse. Learn from your mistakes.. and look forward.

Do seek some professional counsel...

Good Luck!

Starting Over was the name of a reality show. We wish it could come back. It showed us that no matter what the circumstances or age, you can change your destiny or at least change the way you look at things.<br><br>Post edited by: KPW1956, at: 2007/09/25 00:04

There are lots of reasons to my depression and vurge of suicide to be honest...

and i dont talk to counselors because i always feel like they're telling me how to run my life or something close to that..

and i would talk to the school counselor but she's part of the reason i'm like this from her so called &quot;help&quot; last year.

and i started watching re-runs of starting over a few days ago because itts on here(i'm in new zealand) and a lot of those problems i can actually relate to.

so i became a bit fond of wanting to turn my life around. its just with my life, nothing goes right. everyday i get more bad news.

Sorrry if you are going through some rough times.

In all honesty though, it's not uncommon. Young people often want their cake and eat it too. You want help but you don't want people telling you how to run your life.. (actually they are probably telling you what things you should do or not do, in order for you to turn your life around.)

You need to find a counselor that you trust and you'll have to trust that they have your best interest at heart. More than likely they are trying to give you some feedback on things you can be doing to change the direction your life is spinning. Sometimes it's how things are said.. Find a counselor you like.. Sometimes their life experiences and training really can be of great benefit to you. They are not trying to annoy you or add to your problems. How has your way of doing things gotten you so far? If you really want to change direction you need someone to help you do that.. If you reject what they say because you think they are telling you what to do then you are sabotaging your own progress.

You do need to think for yourself.. but just relearn ways to cope with situations. A good counselor will help you do that.

I think if you have a little faith in the process that you will do great!

Hang in there. It takes time to change your thought processes... (how you perceive things)

I think it is pretty common for young people to feel alot of the same things you are feeling.. All of my children have gone through their phases of thinking I don't know anything..or that I have no right giving them advice or worse, telling them what to do... It's a process of separation and growing up. They naturally wanted to exert and practice their independence... Fortunately they never got into real trouble.. Now that they are in their early 20's (2 of them) they now appreciate very much, how we parented them. We tried to protect and guide them.. and instill some fundamental values.
Now they see the bigger picture and can make decisions better. Fortunately they lost the 'tude'..

I've told more than one friend over the years.. That I wouldn't want to go through my teen years again for anything. It really can be a difficult time.. Emotionally, physically and mentally... But time really does help.. Please just hang in there.. Trust somebody who knows what they are doing..

I envy you being able to watch the Starting Over reruns. That show may make an impression on you and ultimately help you. Sometimes when you are on the outside looking in.. you see the issues a little more clearly and you can learn from other peoples struggles. I always could identify with most of the houseguests in one way or another.

i would open up to people but most of the time i dont trust people. my heart isnt open to anyone and i'm angry hating person a lot of the time...thats what i'm known as to a lot of people.

some of the reason i wanna change is so i dont loose my best friend. he cant help me anymore because he has his own things now..i'm beyond help so i believe.

and ever since my brother died last year i have just lost all hope. he was the only one that loved me in my family. and he protected me from everything so i guess you can say that i dont really know how to defend for myself most days. He always protected me from &quot;evil&quot; in this cold heartless world..and when i lost him or found out he had died. i lost my confidence, self-esteem but most of all i lost my way.

its like i'm now in a dark room not knowing where the hec i'm going because i have no one to guide me anymore. i guess my best friend had the part of my life..i'm still learning from him but its not as simple as it use to be...

I think KPW provided some great information. I agree, I think it would be a great idea to talk to someone, hopefully a professional.
Many times there are options and information that we don't know about. I encourage to seek out someone in your family, school, or church, or doctor's office.

I wish you the best of luck.