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I wonder if Mr-Love-Alot reads her blog!!??
She sounds bitter and forgiving in the same breath.......being a Life Coach I'm sure she has to be careful of what she says but in real life she is a human and allowed to have feelings. I am glad that she is able to put them in words.

I wonder what horrible things Mr. Love-a-Lot said about her and why he blames her. I wonder if he didn't appreciate her words about him on her blog after the breakup and called and told her so. It doesn't really matter what version he told his friends, your friends are continue to be his friends no matter whose fault the breakup is. Did she think they would chose to remain her friends in addition to him after the breakup. I've never seen it happen that way.

The first phase Rhonda was in, I understood. I've been there too many times, but this new one is foreign. I may continue to hurt inside and miss someone, but I never let them know it and I never got into I said this and he said that and all that banter with an ex. If someone does not want to be in a relationship with you, that's it; they just don't. Maybe it's healthy to go over and over it for months, disecting every inch of it, but it seems like doing that is causing her more grief. Did'nt she say that the initial breakup was amicable? It's only after weeks of her analyzing that he has contacted her and things have turned ugly. How is that helping her heal?

I realize she has a private life and her ex-boyfriend doesn't have to read her blog, but I'm just saying that it might be time to step back and seeing if this tactic is really helping her heal. If so, then go for it. It doesn't sound as if it is helping her get him back either.

I pretty much agree Debby. I guess I just sense this last blog entry especially is more personal and has more of an intended target.. (him!) not necessarily beneficial to the readers except maybe to confuse them more. But I know we've all been there to some degree..

It's just much more personal and I think sometimes it's better to deal with those in a lower or more direct way or private way. I'm sure dozens of people close to both of them know his name and I'm absolutely sure, he probably reads her blog... (unless he's gone the other extreme and just stopped caring altogether!) (maybe he's blogged out! I'm sure she can probably analyze things to death!)

I also get the feeling that she is using the blog to reach out to him... and while she speaks in contrasts.. She lets it be known, that she wants him back in her life.. and she still loves him.

It's going to take her some time... but publicly blogging in the manner she is just doesn't seem appropriate and perhaps even disrespectful of their relationship. She in effect is dogging or complaining about him.. even if she says in the next breath that she loves him and always will..

Things happen, feelings change.. The writing seemed to have been on the wall for sometime... But she may have been fighting the inevitable.

I wish her well... and that she heals quickly!

I can't remember, did she live in Colorado before she met this guy? It seems I remember some posts about her commuting to and from there when they filmed the last season of SO. Was she dating him then? I wonder if she will stay there or relocate if it becomes clear that they are not going to reconcile?

I know she stated on her blog long ago that she didn't have any real friends in her area. She said she talked to her sister on the phone a lot, but hadn't made many new friends. It seemed as if she dropped that topic when she got very involved with this guy.

If she's not seeing him and she doing all these lone activities and doesn't have friends, I think I might move to where I do know people and can get out and do things with them. Of course, now is not the best time to put your house on the market, so that might be a problem.

I know Colorado is a great state, but wouldn't you think her career might do better in a larger, media city, such as LA, NY or Chicago?

I think her business is based there and was I think before he was even in the picture.

The business appears to be based in Boulder, Co. Which I think is the area where Lisa (older Lisa who was married to Tony) from Season 3 was from. I think one of the other women was from that area too.. I can't think of her name.. She was the Season 3 woman who had ADD and was the first graduate of the season.. (I can't believe I can't remember her name!)
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One other thing... I think the condo or home purchase she made, she said it was the first time she'd ever bought. So I assume that means she rented before. I think at one point it was stated that she split her time up between Co. and the LA area.. plus she traveled quite a bit.<br><br>Post edited by: KPW1956, at: 2007/09/19 12:14