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You can't get past what's coming at you.

(a good friend's granny!! )

"The way a man plays a game shows some of his character.
The way he loses shows all of it."
submitted by Lauren


“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
Thomas Edison

“Results! Why, man I have gotten a lot of results. I know several thousand things that won’t work.”
Thomas A. Edison

"There is always another chance...
This thing called 'failure' is not falling down, but staying down."
Mary Pickford

"Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail."
Ralph Waldo Emerson

"If you don't accept failure as a possibility, you don't set high goals, you don't branch out, you don't try -- you don't take the risk."
Rosalynn Carter

“There is the greatest practical benefit in making a few failures early in life.”
T.H. Huxley

"A minute's success pays the failure of years."
Robert Browning

"Indecision and delays are the parents of failure."
George Canning

"For every failure, there's an alternative course of action. You just have to find it. When you come to a roadblock, take a detour."
Mary Kay Ash

"There is no failure except in no longer trying."
Elbert Hubbard

“Fall seven times, Stand up eight.”
Japanese Proverb

"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much because they live in that gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat."
Theodore Roosevelt

"Persistent people begin their success where others end in failure."
Edward Eggleston

“Come to the edge,” he said.
They said, “We are afraid.”
“Come to the edge,” he said.
They came.
He pushed them…
And they flew.”
Guillaume Apollinaire

"A man can fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he begins to blame somebody else."
John Burroughs

"There are two kinds of failures: The man who will do nothing he is told, and the man who will do nothing else."
Perle Thompson

"Today's opportunities erase yesterday's failures."
Gene Brown

"If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate."
Thomas Watson, Sr

"Failures don't plan to fail; they fail to plan."
Harvey Mackay

"I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."
Bill Cosby

"You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space."
Johnny Cash

"Success doesn't mean the absence of failures; it means the attainment of ultimate objectives."
Edwin Bliss

"Do not look where you fell, but where you slipped."
African Proverb

"I wasn't afraid to fail. Something good always comes out of failure."
Anne Baxter

"Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm."
Winston Churchill

"It is no sin to attempt and fail. The only sin is not to make the attempt."
SueEllen Fried

"Most success springs from an obstacle or failure. I became a cartoonist largely because I failed in my goal of becoming a successful executive."
Scott Adams

“Failure is more frequently from want of energy than want of capital.”
Daniel Webster

"Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently."
Henry Ford

"Keep in mind that neither success nor failure is ever final."
Roger W. Babson

"The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail."
Napoleon Hill

"I honestly think it is better to be a failure at something you love than to be a success at something you hate."
George Burns

"Many people dream of success. To me, success can only be achieved through repeated failure and introspection."
Soichiro Honda

"Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses."
George Washington Carver

"I've never been afraid to fail.
Michael Jordan

"It's not whether you get knocked down. It's whether you get up again."
Vince Lombardi

More "jottings." (I always seem to find another "stash" when I am
in the process of clearing out some drawer or box...in this case, a
ruthless "letting go" of all the stuff in my basement!!
(did not note authors).

If you aim at nothing, you'll hit it every time!

Remember...charm is a verb.

There is always time to be what you might have been.

Love is not a feeling, it's a behavior...how you treat people.

There is no love without admiration and respect.

You feel, in direct proportion, what you have given to...or taken from...the people in your life...each person.

Remembered pain= hostility and anger.
Anticipated pain=fear (anxiety).

All we need is an ear to listen, an eye to behold...and a heart to feel.

I love quotes!


Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1962):

I could not, at any age, be content to take my place by the fireside and simply look on. Life was meant to be lived. Curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.

A mature person is one who is does not think only in absolutes, who is able to be objective even when deeply stirred emotionally, who has learned that there is both good and bad in all people and all things, and who walks humbly and deals charitably with the circumstances of life, knowing that in this world no one is all-knowing and therefore all of us need both love and charity. (from "It Seems to Me" 1954)

Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.

Remember always that you have not only the right to be an indiviudal, you have an obligation to be one. You cannot make any useful contribution in life unless you do this.
You always admire what you really don't understand.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, "I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." . . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do.
You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give.

Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength.
- August Wilson

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
- Leo Buscaglia

The opposite of love is not hate; it's selfishness. And apathy is the strongest symptom of that. In it, a person is saying he is too busy worrying about himself to bother with worrying about anyone else.
- R.D. Clyde

To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.
- Theodore Roosevelt

How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in your life you will have been all of these.
- George Washington Carver

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.
- Martin Luther King Jr.

Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better. What if they are a little coarse, and you may get your coat soiled or torn? What if you do fail, and get fairly rolled in the dirt once or twice. Up again, you shall never be so afraid of a tumble.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

A smooth sea never made a skillful mariner, neither do uninterrupted prosperity and success qualify for usefulness and happiness. The storms of adversity, like those of the ocean, rouse the faculties, and excite the invention, prudence, skill and fortitude of the voyager. The martyrs of ancient times, in bracing their minds to outward calamities, acquired a loftiness of purpose and a moral heroism worth a lifetime of softness and security.
(Unknown)

The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day. Never lose a holy curiosity.
- Albert Einstein

I have never met a man so ignorant that I couldn't learn something from him.
- Galileo Galilei

Hope is both the earliest and the most indispensable virtue inherent in the state of being alive. If life is to be sustained hope must remain, even where confidence is wounded, trust impaired.
- Erik H. Erikson

When the Japanese mend broken objects they aggrandize the damage by filling the cracks with gold, because they believe that when something's suffered damage and has a history it becomes more beautiful.

When we walk to the edge of all the light we have;
And take the step into the darkness of the unknown;
We must believe that one of two things will happen...
There will be something solid for us to stand on,
Or we will be taught to fly.
- Patrick Overton

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena; whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, and spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows the triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.
- Theodore Roosevelt

The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.
- Thomas Paine

Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

It is better to do right than to be right (it is when go to prove we are right that we tend to do wrong to others)
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It's easier to tolerate than to being tolerated
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