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This is just a not on my thoughts on the whole subject.
I have sat back and watched how people react to other people's weight. I've been ultra thin and the only skinny one in a family of obese people. Because of what I’ve been through… I don’t assume that unhealthy diets or laziness got them their weight problem. It’s like assuming a person that looks “Fit” actually was born that way and not work their tail off.
When I was very skinny I was accused of having an eating disorder, and when that was disproven... people would suggest I get checked for worms. STRESS is what caused me to be unable to gain weight (just as much as it can cause others to be overweight). I'd often say I'm too skinny to be anorexic... while people insisted that is why I need to go to a clinic (talk about not listening).. I heard the whispers of people "KNOWING" I was going to throw up while I ate a healthy meal. They just knew I was responsible for not gaining weight. I've been preached to, called toothpick, bean pole, walking stick to my face, I had doctors put on a 4 "balanced" meals a day with Ensure drinks between (just to lose 2 lbs)... It took becoming happier with myself and finding a good support system that I started to gain weight.
With my family's obesities... My mother had medical problems-strokes, early arthritis to the point her hips and spine fused, a couple of relatives were on medications that causes severe weight gain, and yes there were some that rather stuff their faces than move a finger with exercise. One had double knee surgery and ended up in bed for several months leading up the surgery and recovering... naturally she gained weight.
There are a lot of instant judgments on both the "too thin" and "too fat". We hear them, we see the look on other’s faces. I’m not surprised at the defensiveness on this subject. I don’t think it’s fair when people automatically feel it’s their duty to point out to those with weight problem- that they should eat more healthy- as if they themselves are expert to why each individual’s weight problem and just know the person is over eating unhealthy food or not eating enough.
So please when you see someone that is obviously too thin or too fat… remember this is a human with feelings… Don’t assume it’s because they have a choice or that they are unhealthy. I know a 250 lb gal that can out run, out last her teammates on a baseball team. She eats healthy… she is healthy. Genetics just didn’t hand her the “Ideal” shape card.
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