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ceilidh wrote:

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Most women in the SOH were not able to come there and keep their jobs. Why would Cassie have been able to? That she lives in a rented room is a crime? Lots of people are in the same or similar situation. Are we to condemn people for being poor?
All of the HGs were "living in someone else's house, seeking sympathy and blaming others for their problems"...no? With all of us watching every day!!
Seriously, if you have to ask what changes Cassie made, after watching her story...I'm not sure what to say. Perhaps she reminds you of someone? One of the Hgs was a trigger for me until I realized who I was ...really...angry with. It's worth a thought or two.;)

WHAT about Cassie trigers you to write this?

Compassion. You?

Admittedly, I did not watch season 2 so I did not know about Cassie when she "returned". I am not sure things went as they should have with the adoption but I really felt on the day Cassie and her son met(and the girlfriend) ,I was very touched. I think Cassie has a chance to build a relationship with Dustin, if only as a friend. I feel for the adoptive mom. but hiding info and telling Dustin Cassie was dead, was wrong, no matter how you try to justify it. I hope and pray they can build some sort of a relationship. Sorry did not meant to ramble!

Lauren,

I missed the dialogue last night...But had wanted to say to you.. re: open adoption that open adoption is not just unsealed records. It can be whatever the 2 parties design it to be. Since the adoptive couple had all the resources and attorney... and the couple did I am sure, and were anxious to be able to adopt..(that is usually the case with those wanting to adopt infants!) I am sure they were agreeable to anything. Once they got what they wanted (the child) and perhaps when Cassie was still in the throes of her alcoholism...they (she?) changed the rules of the game... We will never know how everything went down. Cassie not having a signed adoption agreement put her at a disadvantage.

I always wonder why Cassie's story affects you so much. It is obviously a great source of pain to you and your hostility toward her is apparent.

We the viewers were never told that she hadn't worked in over a year? I believe that we were told she was working as a housekeeper and nanny I believe... and they were trying to figure out a way to use her skills to turn that into a business as a personal assitant.. I think she would be good at it too..
Last season she was living in the house of her employer so probably was at their beck and call. This season she said she was renting a room in a house and implied that she had the use of the house...and yard even! That to me, implied she could come and go at will... since she was renting from someone else.
I don't know how you make your assumptions as to Cassie's current going's on or her past..

The show is almost over... So I hope you get it out of your system.. It will eat you alive... whether you know Cassie or not personally.

Wow! KPW...I have strong opinions.....As do you, Cassie's story annoyed me on many levels, her dishonesty, her extreme self pitty, her manipulating and her lack of personal accountability. It is not personal, it does not eat at me. She has also spent more time in the SO house than any other guest. Like other poster's I feel free to express my opinions. Evidently, some people like to make more of my comments than they are.

As of late, I have been so disinterested in the show, that I stopped watching over a month ago..... frankly, I am glad that this show is over, far too many people truly believe that this is All Too Real.

I think that my greatest concern is that many women that are viewers will not seek the help that they need, believing that they can watch a TV show and have "Therapy by Proxy." I think that many are confused regarding what is helpful to onself and others. Synpathy can be very destructve. Empathy can be comforting, but inspiring people to think, get off the pity pot and take action to change their lives, is, in my opinion, the kindest, most helpful approach.