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Coolbreeze, My viewpoints are similar. I can definitely identify with those insecure reactions Allison was having. When things snowbll emotionally, they SNOWBALL!.. I am sure she is feeling more confused than ever... and conflicted between wanting to people please and wanting to keep the peace and also Living large..and independently of everyone else's 'conflama'..

I think her coming back to SO3 was probably too soon. I can't help but think that some of her emotional turmoil could be driven by hormonal issues... (and possibly the abrupt menapause she was forced into).

She must be devastated to think she is doing all these things like cleaning for her housemates and to find out that they have negative perceptions of her.. as being controlling. I don't think it's deliberate but probably is a learned behavior from her mom..

As for Lisa.. Why didn't she get off her skinny butt and clean out the bathtub? I'm sure it's because, it wasn't her ring... ! I wonder how that made Allison feel that was the only reason they missed her. No one to clean up after them.. I'm sure she felt rather insignificant.

I like how Dr. Stan tried to turn her around.. and hopefully as she sees this hopefully the second time around (or more if she's got it on tape..) she can really take to heart what he was trying to show her. He was right on the money... But years of feeling insecure and years of negative self talk... won't be overcome on a dime. She's got to take it all in and process it..