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I still feel the same, i understand she wanted to share with her housemates, and yes some of them were being rediculous arguing,but there would have been plenty of opportunities for her to still share her experience, but instead of waiting for a better time(even if it was the other housemates being ridiculous) she chose to feel sorry forherself and turn the whole "amazing" and "life changing" experience she had into a big pity party for herself!!!

as far as the overwhelming emotions when she was talking to dr. stan...in group they just got done talking about how her "overwhelming emotions" is her way of controling the people around her, and in my opinion that is exactly what she was doing with dr. stan.

I am not saying i am right and you are wrong, we just choose to see it different ways!

Coolbreeze, My viewpoints are similar. I can definitely identify with those insecure reactions Allison was having. When things snowbll emotionally, they SNOWBALL!.. I am sure she is feeling more confused than ever... and conflicted between wanting to people please and wanting to keep the peace and also Living large..and independently of everyone else's 'conflama'..

I think her coming back to SO3 was probably too soon. I can't help but think that some of her emotional turmoil could be driven by hormonal issues... (and possibly the abrupt menapause she was forced into).

She must be devastated to think she is doing all these things like cleaning for her housemates and to find out that they have negative perceptions of her.. as being controlling. I don't think it's deliberate but probably is a learned behavior from her mom..

As for Lisa.. Why didn't she get off her skinny butt and clean out the bathtub? I'm sure it's because, it wasn't her ring... ! I wonder how that made Allison feel that was the only reason they missed her. No one to clean up after them.. I'm sure she felt rather insignificant.

I like how Dr. Stan tried to turn her around.. and hopefully as she sees this hopefully the second time around (or more if she's got it on tape..) she can really take to heart what he was trying to show her. He was right on the money... But years of feeling insecure and years of negative self talk... won't be overcome on a dime. She's got to take it all in and process it..

I agree that she came to SO3 way to soon, she needed to rest and recover more!!!!! and that very well could play a part in all her emotions,the only thing that gets me is after tj bor in confessional allison said that it was right on cause tj can do all the assignments she wants, but until she applies them to her life if doesn't make a difference, and I think the same goes for allison,she keeps doing her assignments and saying she gets it and so on, but then we are right back where she started, as far as people pleasing and overreacting, and I could go on!!
I also agree about lisa! she should have cleaned the bathtub, and when allison left all she was worried about was who was going to make her bed and set the alarm and so on and so on!!!

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I gotta admit she is driving me nuts too! Dr STan talks to her about how she has to let that go, that no one gave her time that day to talk about her trip. and it went right over her head. she STILL is going on about it with Lisa just before she goes to sleep after that fight in the kitchen. Come on get over it already.
and what on earth was all that hyperventilating with Dr Stan?

I think her hyperventilating was fake. After all, back in her cushy Houston hotel room, she told Iyanla that "grace led" her "not to cry in front of" the hurricane victims. But, where's that same "grace" when she's sitting in front of Dr Stan? And, trying to manipulate him into granting her a longer stay in the SOH? Leading her to "cry" and "hyperventilate" I'll bet.

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...she is constantly needing attention and when things calm down she has to stir them up again. she is a drama queen...

Or, in Iyanla speak, a conflama queen. Things were so calm and pleasant in the SOH without Allison there, stirring up conflict.

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they just got done talking about control, and allison is still trying to control dr. with her emotions!!! she just gets under my skin, I told myself I wouldn't post anything else under the allison forum, but I just can't help myself!! she is driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just finished watching the tape of today's show, and re the control discussion in group...Jessica said she ...felt...controlled by Alli's emotions. That would be Jessica's problem, wouldn't it? HER response to the emotion? As for Dr. Stan...that's what he is there for, and he's a big boy...and deals with emotion as his life's work.

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I think someone is missing the point. Allison grew up in an alcohlic environment where there was alot of fighting. She always got over looked. She went to Houston and had an experience I am sure most of us will never know. I am from Texas and when this happened and all the evacuees arrived it was very emotional. Try to put yourself in her place. She came home to CRAP! Lisa saying that the tub was filthy because no one cleaned it. The kitchen was a mess and the HG are bitchen. No one seemed to care about what she experienced. All those emotions she was carrying and no one to listen to her. And TJ's smart remark about her minding her own business when she was the one that butted into the conversation Lisa was having with Allison.

When she talked to Dr. Stan her emotions were overflowing. IMO, the HG's owe her an apology.

I feel for Allison, she is always thinking of others and not one of them gave her the time of day. They were too busy aguing.

Agree on all points!! Posted yesterday about the childish behavior. most especially TJ's. Always complaining about Allison's cleaning...still complaining if she doesn't. She probably felt like a mom with a houseful of selfish brats!! Welcome home mom...what's for dinner?