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Allison is moving on . . . guess we know for sure that she won't be back for another stay.

It's going to be interesting to see how the dynamics in the house change. Who is going to be cleaning up? Certainly not Lazy Lusty Lisa. Guess Jill's not going to be jumping at the job either.
Christina? might cut into her pool time. That leaves TJ and Jessica.
But, it seems that Jessica has gotten about all she needs to from the SO house . . . Don't know how many shows are left in this season. (And I'm too lazy to go back through all of the posts from the first showing to find out! )

ceilidh wrote:

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they just got done talking about control, and allison is still trying to control dr. with her emotions!!! she just gets under my skin, I told myself I wouldn't post anything else under the allison forum, but I just can't help myself!! she is driving me nuts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just finished watching the tape of today's show, and re the control discussion in group...Jessica said she ...felt...controlled by Alli's emotions. That would be Jessica's problem, wouldn't it? HER response to the emotion? As for Dr. Stan...that's what he is there for, and he's a big boy...and deals with emotion as his life's work.;)

You're right that is jessica's problem, cause the other housemates don't play into it like jessica does, and your right, dr. stan is a big boy, he deals with people like allison everyday, he hasn't gotten sucked in, I simply stated that she was "trying" to manipulate him with her emotions, but he IS far to smart than that!! he is so right on that she need to get thicker skin AND quit having such high expectations of others!!!!

bottom line allison just doesn't want to leave the house or the spotlight!! IMO dr. stan sees it, rhonda sees it, and Iyanla sees it!!!! She is doing everything she can and pulling out all stops so that they will keep her there!!!!

I thought that Allison was pretty upfront about telling everybody that she was afraid to leave the SOH. Seems obvious that she can't expect much support on the "home front," so I understand that.
She certainly isn't the first HG to experience anxiety re graduating!
If sinking or swimming takes some longer than others, I would not begrudge them the time.

I watched today's episode and I ..well I am not sure how I feel. I like Allison...or..I did when these shows were first run(I did not see last season so I did not get to know Allison with her first stay in the SO house). But through the reruns I am seeing the HGs differently, especially Allison. I LOVE how supportive she was with Jessica on 9/11...and the roses in the ocean with Jessica...that was beautiful!!!! I do wish the other HGs could have been supportive of her when she got back from Texas. But, again, sometimes her "its about ME" attitude gets to me.

I just watched the episode where they go out to breakfast and the couple has the set up fight.

Did you catch Allison's initial reaction? She says, "I always attract conflict." I really noticed it because of the posts saying she always makes it about her.

That, I guess, is a sign of hyper-responsibility which is a direct response to being abused and/or neglected as a child. But I think Allison is more of a drama queen.

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I thought that Allison was pretty upfront about telling everybody that she was afraid to leave the SOH. Seems obvious that she can't expect much support on the "home front," so I understand that.
She certainly isn't the first HG to experience anxiety re graduating!
If sinking or swimming takes some longer than others, I would not begrudge them the time.

You are right she was up-front about being afraid to leave th SOH. You are also right that I don't see her getting much support at home. and You are right that it does take some longer than others!!

Allison has been their longer thatn anyone, and there is only so much stuff the SOH can teach you, and IMO they have done their job, what allison chooses to do with what she learned is all on her..

IMO it is time for allison to go, I am not doubting that she is scared to leaved, who wouldn't be, but I do think she IS purposly overreacting to the thought of leaving in hope to stay a little longer, to be in front of the cameras, JMO I understand there are a lot of people who will disagree with me, and that is fine, but no matter what anyone writes on here it will not change my opinion about her and her motives, just like I could go on and on about all my thoughts, and it won't change your opinion about her.