Hey all, I can't remember where I picked this up, but I copied it, for very obvious reasons.
I may have picked it up on a newsgroup, most likely, as I get so many things like this in specific groups. This time I forgot to put the info on the page....
However, it may even have come from someone here, (don't think so), anyway, I know it is fitting for us ALL!
I have the author as 'unknown', but if anyone can tell me, I will certainly change it and give the attribution to the proper place/person....
Enjoy!
Piper
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A Time Comes In Your Life
A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all
your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks, and somewhere the
voice inside your head cries out ~ ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child
quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder
once or twice, you blink back your tears, and through a mantle of wet lashes
you begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to
change or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next
horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are
not Cinderella.
And you realize in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings (or
beginnings for that matter), and that any guarantee of "happily ever after"
must begin with you; and in the process, a sense of serenity is born of
acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you're not perfect, that not everyone will
always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are, and that's okay.
(They're entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the
importance of loving and championing yourself; and in the process a sense of
newfound confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you
(or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really
count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say,
and that not everyone will always be there for you; and that it's not always
about you. So, you learn to stand on your own, and to take care of yourself
and in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they
are, and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties; and in the
process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you
is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained
into your psyche.
You begin to sift through all that you've been fed about how you should
behave, how you should look, and how much you should weigh; what you should
wear and where you should shop, and what you should drive; how and where you
should live, and what you should do for a living; who you should sleep with,
who you should marry, and what you should expect of a marriage; the
importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. And you
begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to
discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have
bought into to begin with; and in the process you learn to go with your
instincts.
You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive. And that there is
power and glory in creating and contributing; and you stop maneuvering
through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated
ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation
upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the
world and that you can't teach a pig to sing.
You learn to distinguish between guilt, and responsibility, and the
importance of setting boundaries, and learning to say NO.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and
that martyrs get burned at the stake. Then you learn about love. Romantic
love and the familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to
stop giving, and when to walk away. You learn not to project your needs or
your feelings onto a relationship.
You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more
lovable or important because of the man or woman on your arm or the child
that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be.
You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love and you
learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms just to
make you happy. And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely. And you look
in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size
5 or a perfect 10, and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your
head and agonizing over how you "stack up."
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing
things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement
are perfectly OK. And that it is your right to want things and to ask for
the things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands.
You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love,
kindness, sensitivity, and respect; and you won't settle for less. And, you
allow only the hands of a lover who cherishes you to glorify you with
his/her touch and in the process you internalize the meaning of
self-respect.
And you learn that your body really is your temple, and you begin to care
for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking
more water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue
diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time
to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you
take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that for the most part, in life you get what you believe you
deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that
wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it
happen. More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you
need direction, discipline, and perseverance.
You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it's OK to risk
asking for help. You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the
great robber baron of all time. FEAR itself. You learn to step right into
and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle
it, and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your
terms. And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living
under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think
you deserve; and that sometimes-bad things happen to unsuspecting, good
people. On these occasions, you learn not to personalize things. You learn
that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It's just
life happening.
And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state ~ the ego. You
learn negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be
understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you, and
poison the universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are
wrong and to building bridges instead of walls.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we
take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only
dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a
long hot shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by
yourself; and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to
never settle for less than your heart's desire.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
And you make it a point to keep smiling, keep trusting, and to stay open to
every wonderful possibility. Finally, with courage in your heart and with
Spirit by your side you take a stand; you take a deep breath, and you begin
to design the life that you want to live as best as you can.
~Author Unknown~
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