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grizzlys4 wrote:

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mazzy wrote:

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I think 9/11 hit every American hard. It still hurts every time I hear about it, or think about. Jessica's story touched my soul. It was heart breaking to see her pain.

The book lady's comments were very insensitive. I can only wonder what lengths this woman was willing to go to... to sell books. What a creep!

Well said mazzy..........it is indeed heart-breaking to remember. Any death is.............they were all individuals that were lost.....not some mass group of faceless people!!

The lady that wrote the book, in my opinion, is USING the press and others who will naturally react to her vitriol!! She knows exactly what she is doing..............she IS what she is accusing others of being! I also fault the press as they are giving her what she wants...........I hold the belief that to ignore these types is the best way to go. Do not feed into them. Deny them the very thing they are after. *****sigh***** Oh well...........I suppose we will always have these types to deal with.

I agree Grizz, to ignore book lady is one way to go... an even better way is not to buy her book. LOL That would show her! People are naturally curious, but I have faith that most people would see through her ploy of trying to stir up a sensitive topic for profit.

What was the comment made by T.J. about "calling my mom?" I taped the episode and watched it several times, but, I cannot understand what is being said and what it is in response to.

I know Jessica got very upset and the other hg thought T.J. insensitive, but I never got a clear understanding of what was said.

TJ said she the first thing she would have done is call her mom, i think they got upset because she said it needed to happen i did not get that part.

When TJ told Jessica "it needed to happen" I think it was TJ's clumsy way of saying the subject will come up, and you need to face it... talk about, and finally mourn your mother. Jessica was not ready to hear it... she was still at the stage where she was unable to talk about it let alone accept the insensitive way it came out.

Yes, TJ made the "call mom" comment without thinking. And, immediately put her hand over her mouth. Jessica was upset. But, knowing TJ wasn't thinking, forgave her. Lisa, however, was consciously making all kinds of "hooker, stripper, and prostitute" remarks to Christina's face. And, behind her back.

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Yes, TJ made the "call mom" comment without thinking. And, immediately put her hand over her mouth. Jessica was upset. But, knowing TJ wasn't thinking, forgave her. Lisa, however, was consciously making all kinds of "hooker, stripper, and prostitute" remarks to Christina's face. And, behind her back.

Lisa's stripper/prostitute comments were way out of line. I would have liked Christina to have been able to verbally express herself in a lady like manner... letting Lisa clearly know that the comments were hurtful. One may expect a comment like that from strangers, but never from another HG.

Speaking of comments... I was not pleased about the comment TJ made to Christina about her education.

The comment from TJ was insensitive and mean, but somehow I was able to understand where it was coming from... TJ's clumsy open mouth... insert foot inability to express herself was one of her behavioral challenges.

The comment from Lisa was insensitive and mean, but she should have known better.