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Actually meeting with him and having a relationship is not the same as resolving the negative impact that relationship has had on her thus far.
I agree with this. The problem though, is that every time someone on SO wants to talk to Antonia about her father, it is with the specific agenda of her meeting with him and possibly having that relationship. It is SO that equates resolving negative impacts (if any), and "re-connecting" in some way with her father. Witness the Jennifer fiasco today.
Had they approached the issue from a different perspective, Antonia might well have reacted differently.
I also believe that resistance on an issue can mean a lot of things. If Iyanla kept telling Antonia, let's talk about the fact that you have two heads, over and over again, and Antonia denied it and denied it and eventually became downright cranky about Iyanla's preoccupation with such a non-issue, no one would blame Antonia. The "father" issue may well be something she has addressed in her OWN way, in that the man really is a ghost in her life, has no personal meaning to her and causes her more grief in than out of her life. Resistance can also mean, hey Iyanla, maybe it is YOU who have a lingering issue with an absent parent - and you are projecting that onto me.
Whatever the significance, if any, of the father in Antonia's current life, SO has botched the chance to address it in a way that does not legitimately offend Antonia.
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