Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

It seems that I've heard references to a step dad too. Iyanla implied that Antonia's loyalty to her mom was an issue (much as it was with Jodi during her resistance and the dad factor)...

We don't know when the last time Antonia even saw her dad. Maybe he was a child abuser or wife beater. We will never know..
If Antonia doesn't have any direct memories of her dad, the memories she does have were planted there by her mom.

I don't know why Iyanla is pushing the issue in this case. Maybe Iyanla suspects that some of her out of control behavior is rooted in her anger toward her dad. Or maybe the same type of behavior she engages in is what ultimately led her dad down the wrong path.. Then being open to what is going on with her dad might be relevant.

She may also consider her stepfather her father... in every sense of the word. Maybe she wants to withhold that honor from her real father. Also she may very well feel loyalty toward her stepfather too.

Even if she doesn't want to now, she may want to be open to the possibilities some time later... as she gains some maturity.