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Rhonda has her reasons? What reasons? They are not there to be friends????? I thought that they are there to "support each other? Why is laughter wrong? Please explain?

kuhio98 wrote:

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It really got me when all the ladies were happy and laughing and she said something to the effect that maybe they shouldn't be so happy at the BOR.

So Rhonda ~ Do you see the BOR as a place to punish and criticize? Gee, I thought it was the place where we were supposed to get feedback and wait for pearls of wisdom to fall from your lips. ;)

Sorry, but the comment really bugged me. It felt like intimidation. Command and control. Really turned me off. To me their good mood indicated that they were coming together. Supporting each other. Confident that they are working towards their goals. She sure threw a wet blanket on that. Didn't she?

I just feel BOR should be taken in a serious matter. Rhonda is friends with the ladies, you can see it, but when it comes time to grade their progress. She has every right to be tough, and see how much the women have grown, and can take what she dishes out. There is a time to be serious, and a time to goof off, and have fun. BOR is serious.

Hey hsmom! Long time no talk!

I agree that Rhonda is trying to make a point that they shouldnt get so relaxed in their progress as to start giggling and not being concerned about BOR. Just look how confidate Jodi was. Maybe if she wasnt so sure of herself all of the time she would have realized how far she needs to come still. And nothing seems to shake Kim. Even when called point blank on her drinking she seems all relaxed and has a "oh well" sort of additude. I think shes trying to skake them into realizing how important their time is in the starting over house. Just my opinion.

You are absolutely right. There is a time and place for everything...BOR should not be taken lightly.

I think the BOR is taken seriously in general.....HGs are
usually pretty apprehensive about it. A lot of people
laugh when they are nervous.
Rhonda is getting a tad too "show biz" for my taste,but
that's been going on for a while IMHO.