Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

I watch season 2 reruns in the morning and season 3 in the afternoon and there is a huge difference in Rhonda from one year to the next.

Last year she was softer, more compassionate-this year she just seems harsh. Her facial expressions and her tone of voice just grate on my nerves.

Not sure what the cause is but I find it sad.

I personally like them both! I saw SO2...and Rhonda rec'd alot of criticism on the boards then too. Some are going to find something to criticize.. Some thought she was tough, maybe even harsh on Sommer last year... She was great with Bethany... I'm not sure but I think Deborah was her client last year and so was Tess. Some people picked that apart and blamed Rhonda. I think most of it was the luck of the draw... (in that 3 of Rhonda's clients left last year w/o graduating..)

I thought Rhonda was considerably kind and patient with Jessica this season. She was very tolerant of Lisa...(although should NOT have been...imho) Very kind and compassionate with Kim for the bulk of her stay.

I can't say that I see a difference in her between SO2 and SO3..

One could say that Iyanla has more tude this season as well. Remember this household got started on the wrong foot altogether! They weren't geling and as Jill likes to say there was alot of Conflama in the house. I think Rhonda did fine by TJ too... The ladies themselves seem to appreciate their coaches and all seem to be making good progress.

They each have their own style and I could imagine that all of us would prefer one over the other but I think it is good that they have different styles..

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I agree KPW. I was thinking of some of the same examples of Rhonda's compassion, and wondering why some posters see such a difference in her from prior seasons. I don't see that at all. I wonder if anyone else could have taken Christie through her years of anger at her mother to the place she is now, and so quickly. I did wish for some of Iyanla's tough love where Lisa 1 was concerned, and that would be the only SO lady for whom I have questioned Rhonda's methods. But with Lisa 1, Rhonda was TOO forgiving and accepting, which is the opposite of what I understand some posters to object to about Rhonda this season.

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I totally agree with Lauren.

Why would you think Lauren is jealous of Rhonda? That's a leap for sure.

Rhonda is not grounded, she is all over the place. Sjhe can be so mean and sarcastic. That's just the truth, at least right now.

What's really strange is that I think Rhonda knows exactly what she's doing. I really do. She's awfully smart. She knows when she is being mean and angry.

And Iyanla is so professional - she would never be mean or sarcastic to a HG. I wonder if Rhonda is jealous of Iyanla. I wouldn't be surprised.

And before you ask, I'm definitely jealous of Rhonda lol

I agreed, nope, not jealous of Rhonda, how rediculous!

I agree with you regarding the sarcasm. Sarcasm has no place in a professional environment. I also agree that Rhonda is all over the place and lacks center.

The bottom line is that in Coaching, the relationship is a partnership, a level playing field. The Coach is not an authority figure. The client should never feel in fear of displeasing her coach. Nothing even close to a BOR ever takes place in a "Real Coaching" situation. A client is never fired nor are they ever labled "uncoachable".

I appreciate Iyanla. She is able to guide a support with love and kindness. Iyanla is consistent. I have also noticed that Iyanla does not show favoritism. She treats each and every one of her clients on an individual basis and ultimate it is the "Client that makes their own Changes", based on gaining personal clairty and ambition.

I appreciate the different styles of both Rhonda and Iyanla. The strange thing is that in prior seasons I always thought that if I could choose one coach, it would definitely be Iyanla. But this season I have changed my mind. I would perfer Rhonda. I don't know I just do. I think my personality is better suited for her style of coaching.

I disagree with many of the posts that paint such a perfect picture of Iyanla. She too has done some off beat things. Remember when she fell onto the floor when a hg was telling her story. (I can't remember which hg it was). She also has also made some pretty sharp comments. But that's much of what I like about her. I love the personality plus.

None of these people are perfect. Yes, I was shocked the day Rhonda made the comment about her triggering a hg. I couldn't believe it. I think that should have been edited out. But we all have bad days. If you consider how frustrated we get with the hg when we only watch them for an hour a day. Can you imagine the frustration if we had lead them to healing and changing their life for 6 weeks? I don't know I'd have the patience to do it.

I know their are paid professionals, but honestly, how many times can you sit there and listen to someone say, "But it's just sooo hard," "I'm too afraid," But my roomate did something I didn't like," Poor, pitiful me," and "I just want to leave and go home." It would drive me crazy. I would imagine you also get really invested in the hg lives'. When they screw up, it is refective upon you as their coach.

So, I'm choosing not to focus my attention on the isolated incidences, but rather their overall performances that I think are right on!