KPW1956 wrote:
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Yes, She gave him up to a 2 parent home...and it seems to have since become a 5 or 6 parent home(s) between various step parents. The adoptive parents split up.. they both remarried and the mother remarried and divorced at least another time. I am sure those upheavals would have been hard on him growing up as they would on any child. I think the adoptive mother feels threatened by anyone she thinks might jeopardize her exclusive 'motherhood'.
I do agree it should totally be his decision.... Cassie IS part of his history.. and he should know that he is adopted. If and When should be according to his timetable... and noone else's.
But I do think that the adoptive mother is overly protective because she fears what it might mean to her relationship with him... She seems to be particularly hateful...
I agree with you KPW. Not only is divorce and remarriage difficult for a child but also being adopted can be. I also agree that the decision should be his. I have a half brother who looked for his birth parents since he was 18 years old (my Dad was the biological father). He didn't find them until he was 45 years old. My family is so lucky to have him grace our lives, especially my Dad! My brother and my Dad were fortunate to be able to get to know each other for 5 years, then my Dad passed away. We all(I have 3 brothers and a sister in addition to our half brother.) still keep in touch and get together more than a few times a year. My brother said that he feels totally at home being with us! We all have made an incredible connection!! He was also VERY fortunate to have been brought up by a VERY loving Mom. When my Dad passed away, she sent a sympathy card and wrote her condolences to my Mom (not his biological mother). Now
there's a woman who felt secure about her son finding his birth parents!! (March marked the 7th anniversary of our meeting our brother!)
I don't understand why Cassie's son's Mom is having such a difficult time with Cassie wanting to meet him. Maybe she has a strained realtionship with him and she feels that Cassie will take him away from her. Or maybe she has issues of her own that make her feel insecure. Who knows. I like Rhonda's idea of living fearlessly... I think the Mom must live in some kind of fear....
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