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Thank you for your input Peggy, that's how I was seeing it as well.. (I guess my position is pretty much splattered all over the Kim threads lol) I appreciate you taking the time to give your point of view on this, it helps to hear from a therapist point of view and I appreciate you taking the time to share.

No problem, in fact my pleasure...

I began to watch this show out of concern for these very kind of issues. (I suspect this is why Dr. Stan was brought on board.) I have also heard from Jill that they are given a significant number of therapy sessions as part of their departure from the house...

I am happy to respond to questions like this....

PeggyHill

I am SOOO grateful that this issue has opened up. THANK YOU, JesseGirl. I am not a professional, though I sometimes feel like all of the research, study & therapy work that I've done over the years could have put me well on my way to that status. I have been concerned about a number of the women in the house not getting enough help from Dr. Stan. I think the Life Coaches generally do an awesome job at helping the HG's w/their issues. But some of their issues go deeper than they are able to handle in that setting & w/out a medical background. I, too, certainly hope that Kim is going to get some individual therapy when she leaves SO. Peggy Hill, you said.
[quote]"I think the process was rushed and Kim really didn't have time to prepare. If she doesn't get aftercare support in one way or another, the main risk as I see it is that the anger (rage) has been opened up but she has no skills to contain or control it.
I SOOO agree w/you! I have been where Kim is - knowing there was anger deep inside & afraid of what it would look like if I let it out. I went into an in-patient treatment program where I had supportive & UNDERSTANDING people around me. When the rage did hit I didn't have people talking about me behind my back. They just cared for me. I've had MUCH to deal with since then, but I've had much professional help & I've made it through. I can only hope & pray that Kim will be blessed w/the same care & results when she gets home.

I think very few SO fans watch for pure entertainment value. We all identify in one way or another. For the most part I think there is empathy, and we (certainly I) really do care that each of these women get the help they hoped for.

This kind of work is a long and arduous process, painful too!

Currentlly we are seeing Kim as difficult, and I'm sure she is! But I really do wish and want the best for her, and hope that she is able and open to continuing the process after she leaves...


PeggyHill

Peggy, I am fascinated by the training and expertise you have. My program is CBT-oriented. We get almost no psychodynamic training. One of my supervisors has had dynamic training (including dream analysis), but we never explored that in our work together. One goal of my professional career is to do training in this.

Like the rest of you, I am concerned about Kim. I'm a bit behind on my episodes (I've only watched through Tuesday - its been a busy week!), but I really think Peggy is right that her anger hasn't been addressed properly. I really think she didn't express her anger and hurt to its fullest extent in her exercise with her mom.

I had no idea that her marraige had those extra stressors . . . I guess I'd better get watching!

Thank you all for your interest in this thread!

Oh, and Peggy, one quick question: What is Dr. Stan's training?

JesseGirl Do yourself the favor and get a supervisor willing to help you learn the dynamic work. Also attend as many workshops in the psychanalytic arena as you can. You'll be intrrroduced to other supervisors there, as well as readings and study groups...

Dr. Stan is a Lic. Psychologist with community based psychodynamic training (not psychanalytic training, to my knowledge.) I believe he still has a pvt. practice in Beverly Hills, and was the director of training at a local counselling center in Beverly Hills for a period of time...

Where are you in the education process? What city are you in? Feel free to email me privately about your training...


PeggyHill