Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

PeggyHill wrote:

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This kind of work is a long and arduous process, painful too!
Currentlly we are seeing Kim as difficult, and I'm sure she is! But I really do wish and want the best for her, and hope that she is able and open to continuing the process after she leaves...
PeggyHill

I'm so happy to see you here, Peggy, and Jessie!

I went thru most of what Kim is just now starting. I know, if I didn't have a regular therapist, (regular, as in seeing her every week, at times a few times a week!), I would *never* have lived thru the whole process.

Or, if I did, I'd be the one in the straight jacket.

Seriously, I was in therapy for a bit over 3 years, with the same psychologist. She was wonderful. A larger, (much taller than myself), African American, who gave the bestest compassionate support. And great hugs, too. That woman saved my life!

Literally, I believe. No doubt in my mind, there!

So, to you, and all the other mental health professionals, I'd like to say, "THANK YOU!!" for being there when we need it most, or even if we need it a bit.

Love you ppl!!

Cheers,
MaryBeth <who also, believes that many of the women should get extra therapy sessions when leaving the SOH, and so glad to hear that Jill said they do!!>

ahh, you are really blessed to be able to get counselling with a therapist. i needed so much help over the years from my childhood and young adult years and I could never get any because I was too poor to pay for it. So i have had to read and pray and face my issues with courage and its been hard, i still struggle, but at least i am not a total nutcase like I was...i am a loner though, and i often have found myself with tears on my cheeks watching SO becasue i sometimes relate to the ladies. I related a lot to TJ when she was in that box and i related a lot to Lisa but I didnt think it was good for them to dress her up like a baby...
I wonder sometimse about the exercises they do, and about some of the ways they work with these ladies. but life coaches are not the same as doctors. well, Dr Stan is there and so i guess anything they do will be approved by him first.

ymimad wrote:

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ahh, you are really blessed to be able to get counselling with a therapist. i needed so much help over the years from my childhood and young adult years and I could never get any because I was too poor to pay for it. first.

Oh, my dear (((((((((((ymimad))))))))))

I can feel your pain.
I remember ***vividly*** being where you are. NF, NF, NF, NF, NF !!! (NO Fair and NO Fun!!)

Funny, innit? That one tends to forget physical pain, as in after a surgery, but that emotional pain sticks with us until *we* decide to drop the load off.

Do know, tho, it does take some professional help of any kind. Try calling your county clerk's office and find out about the/any Mental Health Care pros out there. There must be some open to sliding scale or even *free* MH care.

Please, don't go without help another day....well, um, it's is Saturday, so call on Monday, get some help, but you don't have to can't continue down this road. You have NO idea how peaceful and content a life I have now, and all because of that one therapist! Don't wait, sweetie, really!

When I was in therapy, I was living in California. And I *was* lucky in that I found a place that charged on a sliding scale!

Perhap you could get a social worker or other counseling, from a clinic similar to the one I used.There are paths that ARE available to you, you just need to find a street sign that leads you down *your* alley.

I really hope/pray that you DO get the help you deperately need.

If you want to e-mail me, then visit at marbethsATcoxDOTnet. (Better Jackee? )

I'm here everyday, and/or nite, and would love to help if I can, in anyway....

Just remember to keep your hopes alive, there is SO much loving living out there just for *you*!!

Sincerely,
MaryBeth

thanks so much for your kind words.
I will see what i can do. But I am much better than I used to be. So I dont feel the same desperation I used to feel.
However I know I need to deal with the isolating. and I do think I need professional help. I will see if I can find someone to talk to.

I would be interested in lurking on such a thread as you propose-- such a discussion of the SOH would complement the show.

JesseGirl, Tara and PeggyHill, I read your credentials and thought you might offer your opinion on a question I have had since Tess was a hg. (I'm not sure if you were watching then) She and Lisa I demonstrated conduct that could be construed as narcissistic. I am not a health care professional, although I minored in Social Work in undergrad, but have read that narcissism is a personality disorder that cannot be changed. Those who have this disorder cannot change because they lack the capacity to even see the problem. No one knows what causes it, but it is thought you are born that way. Although many infamous criminals have narcissisitc personalities, it is not the same as sociopathy and many criminals have both disorders.

What is your opinion? I'm not asking you to diagnose any of the hg, but if you had a chance to see Tess and Lisa I in action, you would understand why I began speculating on reasons for their behavior.