
I'm so sorry that things have come to this point for you. For me the change of women insures that I can continue to learn from the coaches and from the women in the house. I see the same things out in the world but don't notice the causes or can I find ways to chance some of my disfunctional behaviors. The cast of SO brings these maladaptive behaviors to the fore and then analyses them for me.
I understand what you say about self-help books. however, I DO read those books over and over. They are only triggers for me at the particular place where I am. What I get out of self-help books or SO completely depends on my psychology at that point. At 65 I come across stuff all the time that I wrote at a younger age and think someone else wrote it. It is so different from me now. I am saving every episode of SO I can get my hands on to look at when I'm 70 to see what NEW insights Iyanla has for me then!!