Tuesday January 10, 2006
You see the day starting out with the SOG’s dealing with Allison gone. Jill talks about how she is not here this morning and how it is sad. Lisa says that everyone took Allison for granted because she always unloaded the dishwasher and running to the store. Lisa isn’t excited about the new roommate.
TJ is telling Kim about how her life looks perfect on the surface and how she is lucky and blessed and great but it could be better. TJ tells in confessional that she would like to be an example to the new housemates. Lisa is talking to Jill about how she wants to be receptive and inviting to the new people but they both feel like their family is changing. And Lisa says in confessional she misses her Allison.
The new housemate says that as they get closer her nerves are on edge because they are almost there.
Lisa is talking to Christina about her art on the wall and says she likes it. Lisa wants her picture taken in front of it before she leaves if she ever leaves. Lisa tells Christina that she read that Tom Cruise likes his fiance’s crafty side so that is what men want. Christina raises her eyebrows and has a smile on her face when she says “Really?”. Lisa says that he isn’t a bad catch.
Iyanla comes to talk to Christina about the 50 ways to make $50 she came up with. Iyanla and Christina talk about her artwork and Christina thinks that is one of the things she could make to make money. Christina needs to make $1500 to earn her honor back. Things that Christina has written down to make money are sell flowers, babysitting, have art classes, make jewelry, making more art to sell and finding ways to sell them. Christina doesn’t think she would get much for the artwork but she would expect to pay $25 at a flea market. She says the she would probably get to sell the big one for $500. Iyanla wants Christina to go over her ideas to make money. Christina in confessional says she feels desperation to make money to survive and Iyanla tells Christina that she needs to go out and make $100 today.
TJ yells up to Jill that they need to get the house cleaned for the new roommate. TJ knows that Jess and Allison are only phone call away but they aren’t there so they need to make some new magic. We see the housemates sweeping, cleaning, and taking out garbage. TJ says that she has swept and mopped more in the last two months than she has in her entire life.
We see the black car pull up. Kim says that everyone has been so great and she hopes that athey can do the same for the new housemate. The new housemate gets out of the car and says that it iseem slike the longest walk to the front door and she is one step closer to starting over and wonders if she is doing the right thing. Christina tells her to come on in and Christina is the first to meet Lisa. Then comes Jill and Kim. Lisa comes up and gives a hug and they laugh about another Lisa. TJ comes up and they talk about how one of the Lisa’s will have to have a nickname and the first Lisa might have to be Lis. Lisa gives Lisa A. a tour of the house and their room. Lisa A. loves the pool. Rhonda says in confessional that the new housemate comes into the SO house and this particular housemate has a challange that most of the women can relate to. Lisa says showtime and Kim says that it is a house and not a show. Lisa A. sees Iyanla and Rhonda come in and says she is dying. Iyanla says she sure hopes not and they introduce themselves to Lisa A. Iyanla tells Lisa A. that it is time to tell her story and Lisa A. says she is overwhelmed. Lisa A. is ready to go out the backdoor because now it is time to tell ehr story. They show a picture of her and her husband Tony when she was 17 or 18 years old. they started dating at 14 and he is the first and only man she has been with. Rhonda says that this is wonderful. They got married when she was 19. The first year was about sex and popcorn. The second year he had an affair on her. She say she can still feel the pain because her daughter was 2 and she said that they never resolved his affair. She heard a year later that the lady had a child and wanted child support and how this gal wanted Tony to divorce her. Lisa A. doesn’t know where the other child is and doesn’t know where the child is. They still don’t know where he is and her husband never recognized the boy as his. Iyanla asks when is the point that you said that this isn’t want you want and Lisa A. says that she never did until now. They sleep in separate bedrooms for the past two years. Iyanla thinks that this is the way she punishes him. They show her bedroom and how it is blah and colorless. Lisa A. created the bed of suffering. Lisa A. doesn’t work very much and survives on her husbands income. Iyanla’s eyes pop out, she says what and then falls out of her chair while Rhonda somewhat catches her and lowers her to the floor. Iyanla says that the man that cheated on her pays the bills and she wants it that way and lives off him. Iyanla says that is a comfort zone and Rhonda says it is more than that and Lisa A. says she likes it. Rhonda says that means there is hope for change. Lisa A. says in confessional that she feels the lifecoaches are making fun of her and she doesn’t know if she can handle it. Iyanla asks when did it make you unhappy and Lisa A. says that it was when he took on his current profession in 1982 and has been happy but pretends to be happy. There was no resolve after the affair and she did file for divorce at one point but then backed out of it because he made her feel guilty. Lisa A. always took care of Toni and he always took care of her by letting her go shopping. They show a picture of Lisa A. and Toni and they are leaning into each other and Iyanla and Rhonda state that a picture expert would say that they are close intimately by the way that his arm goes around him and the way they lean into each other. Lisa A. sees a lot of sadness in her and thinks that it should have been happier because she was a Grandma for the first time. Lisa A. wants to do this for her grandchild and for her kids because she feels she owes it to them. They show a picture of her son and she tells how he had a problem with drugs and alcohol that started at the age of 12. They show another picture and it is her with her two sisters and she says she hasn’t spoken to them for a year and a half because she wants them to believe that she has a happy marriage. They look at Lisa’s self portrait. She says that she feels like she always wears a mask, has feelings that she feels and says that that the only happiness she feels are the daughter and grandchild that are on the floor. Kim says she notices that the daughter and grandchild are the foundation. What stands out for Lisa in Lisa A.’s picture is that her heart is portraid on the outside of her body and all of the confusion and stuff. Rhonda asks what it has to do with her and she says that she feels something in her and realizes that she feels that it could be her and how she can’t get married until she is healed and whole into herself. Jill says that she hears voilins and TJ says that is what it looks like, a violin on a stand. Jill says that she it is all set up to make her look like the good person and the hubby looks like the bully. Lisa A. says in confessional that she didn’t come here to have them make fun of her but to have her problems taken care of. Her goal is to Rebuild the ruins. The ruins are her family, her marriage, her self-being, her finances and her relationship with her children and the world. Iyanla will get with her later to find her steps. Lisa A. says that she isn’t used to someone telling her it is the way it is.
Jill and Lisa A. are talking about how at first you feel like you have been hit by a Mack truck and Jill tells her first time in the house. Lisa A. says that it is going to be more difficult than she imagined. Jill tells Lisa A. that everyone uses the big bathroom and to not expect much privacy. They then talk about the groceries and about how they usually guy everything together and that no one had a problem with food.
Christina is looking at consignment stores on the computer and is complaining about how hard it is to make money. She calls the place that Jessica took art to about bringing her flower artwork in to see if she could sell it there. They set up for her to look at it later on. They plan on meeting each other later on today.
TJ tells Kim that Rhonda tells her that there are some people that won’t get you and how some people just aren’t into supporting her. TJ sees Kim struggling on her first days in the house. TJ says that when Jill and Jessica tell her something she listens.
Rhonda and Lisa meet. Rhonda wants Lisa to tell her what a woman of backbone’s qualities be and Lisa says pride and dignity. Rhonda says that everyone has value and the five would be integrity, compassion, kind and loving, pride and dignity. Rhonda tells Lisa to pick out a purse that describes her. Lisa picks out a brown leather purse that she says the person has confidence. The gold purse shouts out Look at me also. the black one she thinks isn’t bad but the brown one is boring. Lisa opens her purse and finds one coin. It only has a value of one. One has a lot of hidden treasures and the brown one has a lot of coins and a lot of hidden qualities. You can’t judge a book by it’s cover because you don’t know what a person is made of.
Lisa A. talks to her daughter Stephanie on the phone and tells her that it is going great and she is unpacking and how Iyanla will be her lifecoach. Lisa A. says in confessional that it will be her daughter that she will call for support and when she is homesick.
Christina is looking through her closet to find things that she doesn’t need so she is going to try and sell them.
TJ and Jill are in the kitchen. TJ tells Jill that she really doesn’t want to go to the store and for some reason Jill feels like TJ wants to create drama over the groceries. TJ says that Jill heard that TJ doesn’t want to go.
Rhonda tells LIsa that she is going on a date tonight with Chris. Rhonda doesn’t want Lisa to get caught in the trap of making him think a certain thing so they go to pick out authentic clothes for the date. She picks out jeans, a cute shirt, and heels. she has the intention of having pride and dignity and it will be a test for Lisa to be herself and to be authentic to a man. Rhonda wants Lisa to see the authenticness inside of Chris.
Christina is worried about making money in a honorable way and providing for her son.
TJ talks to Lisa A. about how the accountability sisters and how it works. TJ asks her to look at her like a sister. Lisa thinks that TJ is trying to take over and is taking the bull by the horns. TJ asks Lisa A. not to be too motherly and it is making Lisa A. uncomfortable and Lisa A. feels like it may be TJ she butts heads with.
Lisa A. meets with Iyanla and talks about how she is scared after letting the secrets out. Iyanla says that Lisa A. lives in a fantasy land until today. Lisa A. is afraid to let go of the image, the lie and what people think of her. She is most afraid to tell the truth. Iyanla tells her that the ruins in her life is her afraid to tell the truth. Iyanla says there is a shame in Lisa A. in loving a man who has cheated on her and treated her bad.
Text message question of the day? Who do you think Lisa A. will bond most with?
Lisa calls Chris and asks him out. He remembers who she is they talk about going out for dinner. Lisa says that food is good because their cook graduated last night and he is going to pick her out at 730 tonight.
TJ helps Christina load the artwork. Christina has a feeling in the pit of her stomach about how she has to make money to survive.
Kim and Jill bought wine. TJ has a fit and thinks that if someone wants wine they should but it themself.
This is the point my tape quit recording for some reason. So I’ll fill in by memory now.
TJ and Jill argue some more about house money buying alcohol. Kim feels very uncomfortable. They argue and then it sounds like Jill calls TJ a bitch. TJ says you just didn’t call me a bitch did you and then realizes that she may have just lost Jill’s friendship.
OK all. That’s it. Sorry I got it out late. I’ve been busy and now have a cold .
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