ya it was a confusing epi as so much was going on. i agree tj was fidgeting, and it must have been very frustrating (what the heck was she doing with that thing?), and also bc she was having so much trouble with her words: tj girl just spit it out (shes trying to be choose more carefully now bc Ilyana told her to watch the judgements in group last week when speaking to lisa). i think ally meant well, about the eye contact remark, but i dont think she needed to interrupt tj to say it--and i really did not like to hear her say: "dont be a b****h to me!" and wag her finger. i just have a finger thing: no fingers! and i dont like bad language during a heated discussion, as i said somewhere else, i find that unnecessary and frankly: escalatory. for me i thought tj was just trying to communicate, but ally did 3 big no-nos: 1)she interrupted, 2)she wagged her finger at tj, 3) and then she said the "b****h" word. those are big no-nos in my opinion. and i did feel that although ally did not intend to come across as condescending and superior to tj, that she did in my opinion come off as some big expert on speaking, and thats not the way to speak to people either: i felt it was disrespectful and that ally knows better (tj came in with communication problems and needs some support and patience--how would ally like it if people siad to her, 'oh ally just get over cancer, whatever, and make sure you dont get on our nerves while working it all out'
. ally does need to speak up for herself--i just wish that swearing, wagging her finger, being condescending, stalking off in a huff, and drinking wine werent her first choices. jess i think was trying to communicate with lisa and then mediate between ally and tj (and i heard her giving points for tj and ally), but ally had already stalked off in a huff with her glass of wine. what a nuthouse. i think i need a break. time to go for a walk or something.
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