Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Sorry guys, but it looks like my episode didn't tape. I'll do my best to find a friend with a tape, but no promises.

If anybody else can whip up a recap, I'd greatly appreciate it.

Thanks
Netty

Group:
Dr. Stan leads group. The topic is forgiveness. He explains that forgiveness is not for the other person, but for you. Being able to forgive doesn’t have to mean being stupid (ignoring past behaviors). They go around the room and discuss the things they need to forgive their parents for. They are told to write forgiveness letters to one or both of their parents for a forgiveness ceremony this evening.

Individual Houseguest update:

Lisa did not complete another assignment. Her work was shoddy. Worse, she did not have the products that were requested ready. She sort of did her own thing, not what the storeowners requested she bring in. She was not even aware that she should bring what they asked for, go figure. She only had things for 2 of the 3 stores. Rhonda ordered 25 necklaces for Lisa to complete by tomorrow morning. She asked Lisa if that was a problem and Lisa did not respond. Rhonda, in the confessional, explained the purpose of the project for Lisa was to follow through on a detailed project from beginning to end. Lisa was called out on her defensive and argumentative behavior.

Jill met with a financial counselor at the hospital and found out that there is a program that will cover her inpatient bill. She had a second opinion and might be putting off the surgery, assuming the fibroid is not coming from her ovary. They were scheduling an ultrasound to verify. Also, they want her to lose 50 pounds and quit smoking to improve her chances of surviving the surgery.

TJ was given an assignment of watching 4 toddlers. According to Dr. Stan the purpose was to see her interact with people that she didn’t suspect of having an ulterior motive. Dr. Stan told TJ that she had good gut instincts for people and not to over analyze things. He also told her that she can be too touchy, open, friendly and opinionated and that can be intimidating to some people.

Allison claimed that she feels sad for people but that she doesn’t get mad. Dr. Stan pointed out that because she wasn’t feeling the anger and therefore did not need to forgive and that was not healthy.

Jessica claims that she was raised to forgive.

Christina apparently has more secrets to be revealed (from the tease) and comments that she has to tell the truth. No more info.


The forgiveness ceremony:

The women are given the choice of sending their letters or burning them. They all read their letters to the camera, but only in parts. Every decided to mail their letters but Lisa who burns hers. Most of the letters were what you would expect. Most of the women were trying to express love and yet release their anger. Lisa’s letter seemed a little more accusatory (Rhonda points this out in the confessional). Allison’s letter was written to her entire family (not according to instructions and no one mentions it). To me, Allison’s letter was also accusatory, but Rhonda did not comment.

Thanks for the update. I forgot to tape the show today and was dying to know what happened.

Thanks for the recap!