Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Jessica's biggest problem, besides the actual mourning and missing of her mother, is that, because her mother was so much a part of her everyday life and thoughts, she doesn't seem to know what to do next because this would be something she would discuss with her mother. I believe her mother, in a loving way, of course, was extremely involved in every decision and plan Jessica had or was contemplating. Now, Jessica needs to learn how to think for herself so that she can move on to the next part of her life. I do feel for her - they were obviously very close. I think she was used to her mother blazing the way for her and "helping" her with decisions at every turn. I think the grieving group she attended was very helpful and that survivor guilt group that was mentioned sounds helpful. I do wish she would carry more tissues with her and that there were more available throughout the SO house and grounds. I do understand how hard is is to lose your mother - mine died 7 years ago today. Regardless how your mother dies it affects you and your family in a million ways.

jessica is one of my favorites love watching her with rhonda. sad that her and the family are not closer.

longtimeviewer... I am so sorry about 7 years today, the loss of your mother. I was adopted and I was one of the lucky ones. I had a great loving mom. She is still alive, but getting up in age. It scares me to death to go through the loss of her. So, your post just struck me and I had to say that I am sorry. My son's 16th birthday was today. (Halloween) Just thought I would throw maybe a slight good thread in for the day! I do feel for Jessica. She seems to be in such pain. I think she will be able to move on through the stages of grief, and move on, but she will never be ok with her mom being taken away so abruptly. As alot of deaths are too abrupt.

I also am sorry for your loss and the anniversary is a tough time emotionally. As are holidays. I wish you a happier day tomorrow!!

Longtime...It must be a tough day for you...A dear friend of mine just lost her Mom 5 days ago so I have been going through that with her and like Jaded, found myself thinking of Mom getting "up there" in age...I am thinking of you and feeling your sadness...thank you for sharing that with us..Wishing you happier days too ....and Happy Birthday JadedSON!

Not to mention, part of Jessica's life at that time was centered around being a brat, acting out, disagreeing with her mom, and then making up with her by way of her mom coming to Jessica's room. It seems that she has had to grow up quickly, without the benefit of untying the apron strings slowly and learning the lessons along the way. I feel for her, she's a bit lost.