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Re:About Christina 3 Years, 2 Months ago Karma: 0  
I personally don’t see Christina as an inspiration or a survivor. I like her as a person but that’s about it. First of all, she was married at 16, her mother had to give permission that’s a no no. Her mother shouldn’t had done anything and take no part in this marriage for one she was too young and she couldn’t get married on her own, and two she was not stable, and if Christina didn’t like that…that’s too bad and tough love!.

Secondly, I like to mention that she had put her son at risk of all kinds of threats. Christina becoming a stripper, hustler or what ever she was doing. When she found herself alone and with a child and the only thing came to mind was to strip or hustle to provide for her child. That should be a red alert (signal) to go home to your parents and ask for their help. – If and when I have kids I will not ever for one week not for 3 days not even for 1 day!!! Put me and my child at risk of any kind a danger making easy cash as such as stripping, or hustling because you never now if you are going to be here the next day and then your child will not only have not a father that is not in the picture and now a mother that is dead because her only way of thinking was to become a stripper or a hustler to put food in her son’s belly… what about a JOB!

I have a friend she’s 23 years old. She’s not married. She has two beautiful girls she was beat up by her boyfriend she left him. She bust her A$$ to get a job and she did, she has her kids in daycare and is doing just fine. She has survived. She’s not making a hole lot @ 10:00 hour she is on legal assistance that’s is what they are there for to help and if they can’t help that is what we have family for!

Sorry, I don’t like what she has done. Don’t get me wrong I don’t hate her either but what she did in my opinion was wrong, was not mature. I don’t see her as a strong person at all I’m sorry… for someone that has to buy a dog and then cleans it up and then resale’s it to make money ??? What is that????? She is doing anything possible and doesn’t care of the dog. This dog is thinking he’s going to a good home. He’s thinking wow she really does care! That was low! That’s my opinion.
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Re:About Christina 3 Years, 2 Months ago Karma: 0  
Christina wasn't acting maturely? At age 16? At age 20? You're kidding?!? Because people that age are normally so mature.

I think people need to give Christina a break. She's still a kid. A kid who is starting to mature become an adult.

Good luck to her, I say. Maybe she made some bad decisions, but she had the right reasons, and who are we to judge?
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Re:About Christina 3 Years, 2 Months ago Karma: 0  
I see both sides to this. I agree whole heartedly, and we've heard Christina say this herself, she has made many, many mistakes, ones in which she truly regrets. It takes a lot of courage to go on nat'l tv, expose yourself and your story to the world, and ask for help. S.O. house is the best place for her, and will give her a bright future, where she is able to put her troubled past behind her, and hopefully learn to make better, more mature, responsible choices for her sake, as well as her son. She is still an inspiration to me, because everyone has a story, and no one has the right to judge until we walk in her shoes for a day. Our thoughts and prayers are with Christina.
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Re:About Christina 3 Years, 2 Months ago Karma: 0  
Until today I'd only watched Starting Over in excerpts, usually on VH1's "Best Week Ever" or E's "The Soup." What I'd seen had not appeared promising.

I happened to watch today's episode, home with my wife, and was sincerely touched and saddened by this young woman's story. As someone who's encountered many newly penitent young people - and almost as many falsely so - I trust my instinct and perception enough to discern Reality from Con, in this respect at the very least.

To those who would condemn and deny absolution to this very, -very- young soul, for the nature of her transgressions, I would respectfully remind you: In the view of the sole religious foundation of all of Western Civilization - regardless of whether you personally believe it - there is no sin (save one) greater or lesser in degree, in the eyes of God, than any other. The lie you told as a child, the spite you held in your heart toward any other soul, any avarice or lust that ever dwelt within your consciousness - any ONE of these left you equally guilty, and alienated from God, as any this child ever committed.

Through Adam and Eve, we are all equally guilty. From God, we are all equally called to repentence. Through Christ, we are all equally worthy of, and freely offered, atonement, absolution, and the unblinking grace of God.

That said, I turn my attention toward Christina herself, and relay here, this message in a bottle:

To whomever it may concern, whomever you may be, wherever you are, and whatever role you may play, in whatever plan may unfold: If I had one chance, one moment, to say one thing, to this young woman, Christina, this is what it would be:

The Gospel tells the story of Christ's visit to an unremarkable home, on an unremarkable journey, in which the love of God was revealed in one most remarkable way. A young woman - tradition holds her to have been a prostitute - silently works her way, perhaps even "cons" her way, into the room where He dined, alone with His disciples and hosts.

In those days, the tradition was that the servants of the house would wash the feet of honored visitors, as a sign of welcome and fondness. There were no such servants in this home, and so the unknown, unnamed, silent young woman essentially snuck herself into this role. No one noticed or remarked as she went about the task, unwinding His sandals, quietly sneaking a bowl of warm water from the kitchens nearby. It was all entirely ordinary, her sponging the dust from His ankles, probably massaging a bit, toweling, starting again. Entirely ordinary, common, not worthy of notice.

Until someone realized that as she went, the young woman was silently crying her eyes out. It even was described that she was literally washing His feet with her tears. She then used her own hair for a towel, and finally, in the deepest plea for mercy and forgiveness she could muster, emptied a vial of her perfume into the footbath before finishing. The detail is crucial: As a prostitute, sacrificing her hair - and especially, in those days, her perfume - was the equivalent of giving up her food, and very probably her place in some shared bed, for at least a week, and probably more.

At this point, someone else realized who and "what" this young woman was, and, in their self-righteousness, snorted their disapproval, complaining that her perfume would have been better off sold, and the proceeds given to the poor.

This was one of exactly two times in the Gospel in which Christ became clearly angry. He is said to have glared up at the critic and snapped, in modern terms:

"Shut your face! You hear me? Shut the F up!"

And then He did something He never had before, and in so doing, began the series of events that would lead to His crucifixion. He told the young woman she could stop what she was doing, and go in peace - because her sins had been forgiven.

Only God could forgive sins. In saying this aloud, Christ asserted he was in fact God. This was blasphemy, and had anyone else said such, they'd have been stoned to death within hours.

The message here is clear: Christ so valued, and so accepted, the repentance of this brokenhearted young woman, that He laid it ALL on the line, DARED His opponents to come and GET Him - JUST so she could go in peace, find healing in her heart, and know the meaning of Grace.

To some, to many, this all will mean nothing, and sound stupid, pathetic and ridiculous. But from the one glimpse I saw of this young woman, on this one episode I'd ever sat through, it is my impression that she would not be among them.

If one has no traditional or familial faith or denomination, the United Methodist Church is a welcoming, compassionate, non-judgemental, non-fanatical, kind, decent and loving place and home. An afternoon spent there, talking with a counselor, would not be an afternoon wasted.

It is my sincere hope, faith and prayer that beyond obtaining for herself her hoped-for Honor - at best a term describing the shared sentiment of fellow mortals and sinners - this young soul, and every other in her place, acquires the best for which any one of us could hope: Grace, Peace and Joy.

Finally: Research, sometime, the life of Betty Page. Learn where her own path led her, beyond her silly and seamy post-adolescence, beyond the sadness and loneliness of life past her "prime." See for yourself, Grace personified, in perhaps the unlikeliest of persons.

CBWY,
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Re:About Christina 3 Years, 2 Months ago Karma: 6  
ach_iHn wrote:
[quote] See for yourself, Grace personified, in perhaps the unlikeliest of persons.


It usually is..We just have to be looking through loving/comapssionate (Christ like) eyes to see it.....Thank you ach_iHn
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Thanks ach that was very meaningful.
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