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Wednesday October 12

Today we start off with them showing Allison at Dr.Wisemans office having a visit talking about her breast reconstruction and her having her stomach brought up to make her boobs. They are discussing her infection that its normal, TJ is with her and they are speaking of the pain and how a woman feels feminine because of her breasts. TJ is saying how unpleased she is with her breasts being small, Allison says she just doesn’t get it.

Now they are back at the house and we see the Pizza delivery boy and Jill isn’t happy that they ordered the pizza saying its not fair.

Now there’s a gift left at the door, A game with cards they need to give it to the person they feel uncomfortable with. Jessica gives it to TJ, Lisa gives hers to TJ also as does Jill,
They are telling her she’s loud and TJ saying she knows she makes people feel uncomfortable. Lisa is telling her she wants to put a muzzle on her cause she goes on and on, Allison tells everyone she’s tired and wants to stop and they agree. TJ is outside crying and we hear the ladies discussing how she feels overwhelmed.

Now they show Lisa she’s out of the pink dress, hmmm bet she’s in trouble.

TJ says she’s walking on egg shells and she’s trying to figure out what she’s doing she doesn’t know and wish she did.

Ladies are waiting for group to start and Rhonda says there’s a problem why doesn’t Lisa have on her dress they didn’t end the exercise and asks what she wants to do and she says change so she goes to change.

TJ says she feels uncomfortable and Jill tells her she doesn’t pay attention when she’s talking she just goes on and on and doesn’t know what she’s saying.
Rhonda asks who else feels uncomfortable Jessica speaks up says she triggers things in her so that’s Jill and Jessica so far.. TJ says she doesn’t want to make people feel uncomfortable and Iyanla tells her to stop she’s beating herself up, she says she feels abandoned and Rhonda tells her to calm down and breathe, she stops crying and hyperventilating really fast and Rhonda asks her how can she stop that fast and she can only change her life if she wants to change it.

Now to Tjs story she is looking at a picture saying she feels ugly for a long time and don’t know when it started, she says its her teeth hair and glasses. She has a cap and gown on but not hers saying she wished she graduated she dropped out cause she felt stupid.
Talking about her Father she felt he was trying to buy her love just giving her checks for birthdays and Christmas. She says she feels uncomfortable when she feels good or bad.
A wedding picture is shown of TJ she’s very pretty and has a checkbook in her hand on the day of her wedding and that’s how TJ is she says she has to do it herself, they ask her how she felt on her Wedding day she said scared and that they waited 10 years to get married, she says her Husband is the only person that makes her feel comfortable.
She is saying she’s successful has lots of people in her life, 2 houses but feels disconnected. She has everything but she’s not happy.
Her goal is to learn to accept and be happy and to connect.

Now to Lisa Rhonda is asking her how she felt walking around in her baby outfit, she says funny.
Her new exercise is to talk to men and ask them questions. She has to ask them for truths and YES she has to go out in her baby outfit. The houseguests are making her up Allison puts a wig on her to make her look younger, Rhonda comes in and off goes the wig cause it doesn’t represent the real her. ( I liked the wig it really looked cute)
Rhonda and Lisa get in a discussion and Rhonda asks Lisa you have a decision to make do you want to leave now??
Rhonda says its about who she is being true to herself and the real YOU, Rhonda says she’s not ready to change that she’s smarter and she just didn’t listen, they hug and all is good.

Now Rhonda and TJ, TJ is upset she tells Rhonda she needs help spelling. They are putting down her steps Rhonda says she needs help with her Dyslexia and her learning disorder. She’s talking about compassion and she’s crying saying she’s upset her board isn’t perfect and misspelled words. She puts a belt on her and TJs job is to connect with someone at all times and she is to stay plugged in and connected at all times to one of her Houseguests and she thanks Rhonda for seeing her in a most Genuine Way. I really get TJs story now.

Now Jill and Iyanla they are discussing Jenny Craig and Jill tells how she felt that she couldn’t eat what everyone else was and she felt they were sabotaging her. She felt deprived and food is the only thing that works. Iyanla asks Jill what she feels deprived of
And she breaks down, she’s crying very hard laying on Iyanlas lap.
She is telling Iyanal she wants to be feminine and soft and be loved, Iyanla tells she has felt unloved and unworthy, she has Jill say she forgives herself for feeling unwanted and unloved by her Father and that she is loved right now.

Lisa is on the street asking questions to men would they want to marry someone who didn’t have a job and let there parents take care of them, the men are telling her no that’s lazy they wouldn’t want a woman that they have to take care of, Lisa saying she feels stupid. Seemed liked a short exercise they usually go into it much more?

TJ is saying she wants someone to come with her to smoke a cig and she ends up messing up a picture of Christinas, but they are laughing the entire time.

Lisa is talking to Rhonda after her exercise and she is telling Rhonda men don’t like dependant women and Lisa says she understands and feels it now her #1 insight is she’s been living in a dream world and wants to change. Rhonda says now she can move into adult hood.

Jessica is talking about her parents and 911 and being a spokesperson for what happened, TJ makes a comment and covers her mouth sorry I missed what she said but Jessica starts to cry and says exactly.
TJ is telling Jessica it was a slip so it must have been something about calling her mom and of course Jessica cant call her Mom. Jessica tells TJ she doesn’t get it and TJ says she apologizes and Jessica tells her she doesn’t want to discuss it and cant talk to her right now and gets up and leaves. She’s very upset. TJ is apologizing over and over.
TJ saying in voice over she just needs to learn to shut her mouth.

Tomorrows Show
TJ may have met her match-Jill is telling her how can you be insensitive and Allison saying does anyone want to be her friend. Christinas story is tomorrow they show her saying how she felt like a horrible being and ask her what she’s been doing and she says everything

Hey sweetpeach thanks for today's recap!!!!!! thank you, thank you.. I missed 1/2 of todays show .

Thanks again!

I was a little freaked out by Jill's head in Iyanlas lap. You can be comforted without having your head in someones lap. She is a grown woman...let her put her head on your shoulder.

Shades of Kim with Iyanla dealing with Jill. She said a lot of the same things. "I forgive myself for feeling worthless", etc.

Amanda

an awesome recap again! You have a flair for writing sweetpeach! Thanks. I watched but i missed a little.Recaps always help me get what I missed.

Thanks so much forthe recap. I was out today and thought I had my tape machine on. Not so, when I tried to see todays show, it was a no show! Then I go to your recap and I calmed down. I enjoy this show so much, I really get upset if I miss anything. Poor Ali, I really like her and all of her qualities. She has not seemed well since this show started. I hope the Dr. can help her. She has more to give than she has to learn. I wish I had a friend like Ali, I would treasur her. Poor TJ, I sure do hope she gets some help. I really don't think she means to be so anoying. Jill is, well, JILL. I still don't know what to think of her. Jessica is hurting so, I hope being on SO can help her. She has a long life ahead of her, it would be ashamed to not have gone through all the stages of greif. She needs all of our prayers. Wish I could hug her! Lisa? hummm don't know what to think yet of her situation. One would think she would know she really has a problem long before she was 43? I can't wait to hear from Christine tomorrow. If I am going out, I will be sure to have my tape machine working! I really like R,L, and Dr. Stan. I have learned so much from them! Thank you STC's. Still, I hope I never find out that this show is staged. That would really get me. I'll be watching tomorrow, in fact, I can't wait. LOL one more thing, TJ I too am dyslic. When I was little they didn't know how to help people like me. I, as you will probably notice also have a hard time with spelling. Hold your head high TJ, I am sure you have many other talents to make up for the embarresment and fear that others will find out. You can be loved for who you are! That is how I feel and that is how I live my life.

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