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bejo123 wrote:

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I initially thought Lou was cool, but now I'm having second thoughts and see they have alot of underlying issues...mother and child relationship...they both seem like spoiled brats and enablers. Lou needs to realize that if they want to solve their relationship problems he's going to have to roll up his sleeves and dig in there and do the "dirty" work. Jen needs to stop taking his side without forethought and hold his feet to the fire sao he can become responsble (imho).

Well said bejo123 and welcome to the site!!

Another point....hubby and wife stuck together in their resolve NOT to clean the car....is this not a sign of bond and loyalty? Just a thought.

netty wrote:

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Another point....hubby and wife stuck together in their resolve NOT to clean the car....is this not a sign of bond and loyalty? Just a thought.

netty, that was my first thought too. but then I heard Jennifer say that once she heard that they would clean the car or have to pack their bags she wasn't supporting Lou anymore because she wasn't going to go home, the loyalty thing went out the window, i thought she just decided to cover her own butt at that point.

Yup...didn't see that til I watched yesterday's episode late last night. A little disappointing to say the least. If it meant getting thrown out, she was caving. Question...if one spouse stays and one goes home, what's really gained for a marriage? So if a spouse is risking the opportunity to stay in the SO house, should the other defend "their" position?

did anyone else think the way Lou talked to Cheryl was un called for?
i mean yeah Cheryl needed to quit crying right then.. she was distracting attention from what was going on..
i dont know if it was his tone of voice or the actual words he said..
something like ......
breath ..... suck one in and then blow it back out.. you've gotta stop that...
not very nice to his fellow house guest..
i am wondering if its Lou that is asked to leave at the BOR

Yes! I did think that was extreme - but I'm thinking they edited out a conversation in the interest of time. Because Cheryl is very sensitive and probably would have snapped at Lou for his "advice".
I'm thinking he probably explained things more and we just didn't get to see all of it.