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Kacie drama queen? hmmmmmmmmmmm we'll see. I could only imagine what it would be like to deal with someone has been raped/molested. Simon has been dealing with all that baggage for who knows how long now?????????? he is being made up 2 look like the bad guy.

What I said was a drama queen side to her....doesn't mean she is a complete one. And for the record, I can do more than imagine what it is like to both deal with and be someone who's been raped/molested. It is indeed an incredibly difficult thing to deal with. It does not mean however that others need to change to be able to deal with you. It means you need to find ways of healing yourself. It never completely goes away, but it can be overcome. I do not believe Simon is being made out to be a bad guy at all...just at a loss without the examples of how to deal with emotional things.

For the record, Simon is faced with a lifetime of cultural differences I think. Each of them has a childhood from which they need to recover.

I have a lot of faith in simon and kacie. I don't think kacie's is manipulating simon by crying. I taped the show and i noticed that some shots they show kacie crying is a shot we have already seen the other day. ( ex.when she was crying on the bed laying down) they make her seem like she is crying all the time because that show us the same seen over and over again. And how can she be manipulating simon by crying when she is crying simon does not change his behavior he stays the same. When someone is manipulating someone thay do it to get there way. We see kacie cry many times and simon just sits there. I belive she is crying because she is hurting inside and is very emotional. I think simon and kacie are the realist couple on the show. They are telling there dark secrets. How can you even reply to Kacie's crying on this message board if you yourself have not been molested. I would be crying everyday if I had to come to the realization of being molested!

Simon wants it both ways. He wants Kaycie to be passionate sexually, yet he represses her in the daytime. Which is it, Mon? Do you want her to pretend to be your secret whore? I had boyfriends like that in my past, and it seemed to me that this was an unresolved problem within themselves. If you want me to be uninhibited in private, you're going to have to deal with my personality out in the open as well. Either you need to control what I wear, watch and say, or you like me. It can't be both.

PS on the molestation issue, it can be overcome. I was a victim of incest from age 3 to age 13 and for me, it comes out in my lack of patience for anyone who has an immature, Playboy-ish attitude toward women. I looked for a man who understands that you have to be respectful of someone all day long if you want her to be enthusiastic in your bed.