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I've watched everyday, and I just see Simon continuing in his same patterns. I don't know if it really hard for him to overcome all that his culture brings to the relationship or that he just doesn't want to change. I know for myself that I could not be in a relationship where someone was always pulling away from me and ignoring me. And I was really annoyed with the fact that he said there was no chemistry with his wife when they were salsa dancing. He was more interested in learning from the man in the room than with his wife who was trying to help him. Maybe I am just overly sensitive, but I feel really badly for Kacie and hope her the best in trying to overcome her issues with her childhood. I think that in part, that is the role she is playing out with her husband i.e. trying to feel safe as an adult with someone that reminds her of her molester from childhood. I'm not a psych and could be totally off base with that thought, but I'm willing to be wrong and hope that I am. Simon just makes me so angry with the way he acts.

/rant

Gotta give him some credit....he showed up at the SO house.Even if it was to prove his wife wrong
He is surrounded by good council that want him to see things differently and teach him skills to communicate.

Rome wasn't built in a day...he can't change over night.



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While, I agree with you that Rome wasn't built in a day and that they have good council who are working towards their success, Simon reminds me of Tess in that he says he gets it, but then continues to isolate and distance himself. Tess showed up and participated, but didn't change.

Like I said in my OP, I hope that I'm wrong and I do wish them the best.

I think that it's time for Iyanla to give him some "tough" love. She's being too patient with him.

I feel for Kacie. She looks scared all the time.

Mercredi wrote:

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I think that it's time for Iyanla to give him some "tough" love. She's being too patient with him.

I feel for Kacie. She looks scared all the time.

I, too, would love for Iyanla to give Simon the tough love treatment, Mercredi. I think that she is taking a different approach because she is trying to break down a cultural notion which is a big identifier for Simon. I am guessing that Iyanla feels that if she attacks his culture or his upbringing it will drive him farther away and stop any progress at all.

I feel bad for Kacie, too. I want to jump through the screen and give her a big hug. She does look scared all the time. She has a big monster in hre closet that she is going to have to get rid of, but I think with Iyanla's support she will get through it.

Not to sound pessimistic, but if things don't work for Simon and Kacie in the house as a couple, maybe they will ask Kacie to be one of the regular houseguests. I would really like to see her story through and I don't think they are going to accomplish that in just three weeks.

I feel so sorry for Kacie. I thought it was sad when she was crying over being molested. And Iyanla had to tell Simon to put his arm around her. You can tell he's not very affectionate toward Kacie. My heart goes out to her and I pray Iyanla can help Simon to show her more love and affection.