Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Hi scw! Its so nice to hear that im not the only one who feels this way. It is so hard isnt it! Ive been here for about 2 months now....ive made some wonderful friends, and keep pretty busy but while it has gotten a little easier, the living alone part still sucks!!!! It is so lonely!! I'm with people all day, classes, research, working in the clinic, etc.... but then i get home about 7pm and its just so depressing! Not to mention the weekends! I work hard to make sure i have plans for fri and sat night, but during the day, sometimes i just feel so "trapped"... i wake up sat mornings and the first thing that pops in my mind is "im alone". It certainly doesnt help that all my friends, while wonderful, are also first year grad students who are equally stressed out. I keep telling myself..."this is your dream", "you made this choice", "it will be worth it in the end" blah blah blah.
I'm hoping it will get better... I did get a kitten!! I love him to death, hes my little lovebug, and it does help. At least its somebody to come home to, someone to talk to haha.
Hang in there!!!
Kelly

scw - whereabouts are you? I live in Vancouver.

And I have to say that I would kill to live on my own again!! I moved back in with my parents to go to school, after living on my own for 6 years, and while it has its advantages I'd much rather have my own place!

Kelly,
I know how you feel. I just moved to go to grad school and I live alone too. I just hate it! At night and on the weekends, it sometimes feels like I'm going to go crazy being by myself all the time. I wish that I had an answer for you, but I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in your feelings.
Jodi

it is good to know that others are going through the same thing. i have adjusted somewhat, but sometimes the work load and the aloneness and everything seems like the weight of the entire world. but we will survive! even if we're gone crazy by the end of it....

cancricket, i'm in edmonton...not that close to the coast, but i wish i was was cos i miss the ocean so much. i'm from nl, and edmonton could not be any more different from it! it was a toss-up for me between uofa and ubc...i find myself wishing sometimes i had gone there just for the ocean!

While I cant say I am alone in my move I can say its lonely for me also, I miss my home and friends terribly.
I am thankful I have my family and hope you enjoy this time Kelar and JLT, you will look back on this experience and smile.

I just moved too so I can totally relate. My fiance and I just moved from a small "city" in central NY to Manhattan...talk about a big change. While I'm not living alone right now I have in the past. The silence can be horrible sometimes.

I'm glad you got a kitten Kelar419...a pet can be your best friend. We had to sneak our cats into this building...combined we have THREE, I would not have given Lola up for ANYTHING.

I miss my family a lot. This will be the first time in my life I haven't been with my parents for Thanksgiving. I've driven through blinding snowstorms to be with my parents for holidays, but this year its an 8 hour drive and I know the weather will be HORRIBLE. Thankfully my fiance has agreed that we can spend Christmas day with my family before flying to Arizona to see his family.


It seems we have a lot of Grad students here. What are you all getting your degrees in? I'm about to start my applications to get my Masters in Social Work. I'm so worried that I won't get in. Like lots of people I screwed up really bad during my first year of undergrad. Despite making the Deans list for the last couple of years, my grades are not as good as they should be. There are lots of schools for me here in NYC but most are too expensive. I've got my heart set on the public school.


Any advice about getting into Grad School would be GREATLY appreciated!!!!!!!!!!

Amanda