Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Friday 4/8 from tvgal-

Rhonda meets with Bethany and she asks her again about how her rebel days were. Bethany said she had one of the best times of her life. Then Rhonda says that she wants to see where Bethany is on her path to self love. She has Bethany go get the signs she has about self love. Bethany says that she has been able to turn around the dialogue in her head that tells her something she thinks is stupid. She tells herself good things now. But she admits that it is still hard to accept a compliment.

Allison is still dragging her squatter heads around.

Rhonda and Bethany go over the signs from the path to self love and Bethany re-evaluates herself on them. She is doing much better. Bethany’s assignment for the day is to call Justin for a date, set up an internet date and call her parents to tell them that she will be moving out.

Iyanla leads group and it is on sacrifice. Iyanla asks what they have sacrificed in their pasts. Bethany says that she sacrificed going to college, Allison sacrificed her career and motherhood, Vanessa sacrificed her passion for gymnastics in order to protect herself from failure. At the end Iyanla tells them that she wants them to start practicing a mantra a teacher taught her. It is “OOOOOHHHHHHH, What the heck! Go for it anyway!” She does it over and over.

Rhonda meets with Vanessa and she has a sign with 3 ways to support yourself. #1 is ask for what you need. Her assignment is to call Michael and ask him to come and talk to her and she is to tell him what she needs from him.
#2 is to do one loving thing a day for yourself
#3 is acknowledge the love around you each day

Bethany is on the computer and Allison is helping her to write her internet dating ad. Rachael is sitting on the couch and she tells Bethany that either she or Bethany is going to find out they are graduating. Bethany tells her not to say that, she doesn’t want to leave yet. (she says it kind of in a half kidding way)

Vanessa calls Michael and tells him that he needs to be at the house at 2pm today. He gives her a really hard time and tells her that he isn’t coming just because he doesn’t want to and Vanessa is asking him why not and he is just giving her heck. Then he ask her if she is mad at him for not coming and she says that she is upset and doesn’t understand why. He tells her that he is coming that he was just teasing her. She tells him that he is an a-hole for teasing her like that.

Allison reads Bethany’s ad out loud to Rachael. It is very good.

Rachael calls Iyanla and says that she is scared about having to talk to Ellen. Iyanla asks her where they are on this. Rachael says that she has a message on her cell phone from her and needs to call her back and doesn’t know what to say. Iyanla tells her that she needs to know her budget and to tell Ellen how much money she will need each month when she moves out and goes back to school. Then Rachael starts asking Iyanla if she is graduating and Iyanla says, “hopefully someday”. Rachael starts going off laughing and saying that she is graduating. Then she says, “where am I going to live?” Iyanla says that is a perfect question to ask herself if she thinks she is graduating. Where is she going to live? Rachael is still giggling and saying that she doesn’t know. Iyanla tells her that she doesn’t know what to say to her.

Vanessa’s boyfriend Michael shows up. He is very tall and a tad dorky looking. Vanessa can do better. (sorry I couldn’t resist!) They go down stairs to a room and sit down. She tells him that she needs him to say more positive things to her. She wants him to be supportive of her going back to school. He asks her if she blames him for her not going back to school. She says a little. He doesn’t like that. He gets on her about quitting anything she starts. She tells him that instead of telling her that she is a quitter, he should encourage her to try harder. She wants him to support her desire to eat healthy. He says that he doesn’t care what she eats. Vanessa says that everytime she would try to lose weight he would say that she won’t stick to the diet. They banter back and forth. He gets a little defensive. It appears that he likes to tease and now Vanessa is telling him that she doesn’t like it. In confessional Vanessa says that she could tell he felt a little attacked and then she thinks he came prepared to argue.

Bethany calls her mom and tells her that when she leaves the house she plans on moving out and going to college. Her mom tells her that even though she hates the thought of Bethany moving out, she thinks it is a great idea and she will support her in it.

Then Bethany calls Justin. Before she actually does it, she is talking to Rachael and Rachel is laughing and asks Bethany if she needs her to do the mantra! So she starts going, “ooooohhhhhh, what the heck, go for it anyway. Bethany sits down and calls him. When he answers the phone, he says, “Bethany!” She is totally thrown by it and starts stammering and asks him if he is clairvoyant or something. He tells her that he put her number in his phone so then when she called it came up with her name on his phone. (good grief, don’t ya all have caller ID in Carolina?) Justin ends up asking her out before she can ask him out. They agree to get together but they don’t say when.

BOR time!
Vanessa is called up first. Her goal is to “find a new identity”. She tells them what she is doing well and then Rhonda asks her how it went today with Michael. Vanessa says that even though it is very scary to her, she realizes that it might not work out. Rhonda and Iyanla’s mouths fall open! They are thrilled to hear it. What does she need to work on? Vanessa says to trust herself. She gets a B+.

Allison is called up. Her goal is to “learn to live”. Iyanla asks her what she has learned. Allison gives some textbook answer that shows no personal investment. And that she realizes that she probably will never have kids and that is okay. She shows no emotion. This is when Iyanla says that as a card carrying life coach, there is no way she is buying this. They go around the table. Vanessa tells her that she wants to see her cry. Rachel tells her that she has been waiting for Allison to get mad about havi8ng to drag those heads around but that instead she seems to be comfortable with them. Iyanla says that she has been waiting for the real Allison to show up. Then Iyanla ells her that she has 45 seconds to destroy her fake happy head. Iyanla tells her to use whatever means necessary even if it is biting if. So Allison proceeds to rig at it, slam it on the table, slam it on the wall, stomp on it, bite chunk out of it and then the roomies help tear at it too. Iyanla tells her that she wants the real her to show up. Allison does cry a little. Allison gets a B-.

Then they do the shtick of acting like they are leaving then deciding to call up one more person. It is Bethany. She smiles and is a tad surprised. She tells them that her confidence level is high. She tells them about calling her mom. She gets great feedback from her roomies. Then Rhonda tells her that she is graduating. In confessional Bethany says it is very bittersweet. She knows that she is ready but she hates to leave.

Later that night, Justin shows up at the house and he asks Bethany to sit outside with him and he has a guitar with him and he sings her a romantic song. When he is leaving he tells her that if he is ever in the south he will definitely look her up and then he gives her a little kiss on the mouth! Rachael is in Bethany’s room with her helping her to pack and they start crying and that leads to hugging.

Preview-
Next week Allison gets some heartbreaking news. They are looking at some graphs and Allison says that it is horrifying.

Tess is with Rhonda and crying and saying that she is afraid to let the real her out.

There will be a special on body image. PJ is back with red hair and looking very modern. She says something about not wanting to be the fat girl anymore. Iyanla says that she hears what PJ is saying but it just isn’t ringing true to her. Marcus is there to talk about Sommer’s struggle.

Monday 4-11 from Doggiemom4---->

This show is the special on body image so I won't go into detail. If this is something you are interested in, you will probably enjoy it. If not, well, I found it quite boring, myself. Of course, I'm home sick again, so I'm not feeling too enthusiastic about anything.

We see clips of PJ, Sommer, Candy, Kim, Josie, Bethany, Allison, Vanessa, and Cassie2. Also confessional clips from each of the current HGs.

Dr Stan, Rhonda and Iyanla are in the loft room, and are joined by various guests.

Marcus comes in and talks about his background and experiences. They discuss PJ, and she comes in and talks with all four about her progress and eating disorder. We see flashbacks of her in the house. After she leaves, they discuss Sommer and gastric bypass surgery. Rhonda comments that Sommer was asked to leave after "many, many displays of self-sabotage and resistance". We see flashbacks of Sommer.

Marcus leaves and an actress from Days of Our Lives, Judy Evans, comes in. She talks about her experiences with body image and her career.

When she leaves Dr Stan, Rhonda and Iyanla discuss Andy and we see flashbacks of her. They are all impressed with Andy and what she has done. Rhonda gets a bit gushy.

Then they talk about Karen from season one, we see flashbacks and Karen1 comes in to talk about her experiences working in the adult entertainment industry.

When Karen1 leaves, they talk about the exercise where they have women look at themselves in the mirror, and there are more flashbacks. Then they answer two viewer questions:

"Any advice on how to increase sex drive and decrease feelings of inhibition and self consciousness due to the fact that I'm at a record high weight and a record low self-image?"

"I don't feel good about myself so I'm contemplating having plastic surgery. I'm thinking of getting a nose job and maybe breast implants. What do you think?"

Previews:
Karen finally reveals what really happened with her daughter. We see her and Iyanla one-on-one, and Iyanla says "Karen, you set it up, can you be okay with that?"

Allison's love life gets a big boost. She seems to be talking to a dating service person. Allison says "He's got to be funny and charismatic." The woman she's with says "Let's get you out on a date, I've got two men interested already."

And the women gather to say an emotional goodbye to Bethany. We see clips of Bethany's graduation in the loft. It doesn't look like she gets a graduation makeover.

Tuesday 4-12 from tvgal---->

Tuesday 4/12

Bethany is packing and she is crying in confessional saying that she really doesn’t want to leave everyone but on the other hand she is looking forward to going home.

Iyanla meets with Karen. She asks to see her pictures. Karen shows her the self portrait with swords stock in her. Iyanla asks if there are names for the swords and Karen says yes that they represent her affair and her brother and Anna. Iyanla says that she still has a problem with there being so much fire between her and Anna for it to have started with the affair. Karen says that she remembers now what happened before. She said that before the affair she had gotten a computer and had gotten obsessed with the internet and chat rooms. She was flirting with people on line. She said that Anna asked her if she was having an affair. Iyanla says that was quite a question to come up with just because Karen was on the internet a lot. Karen says that she had also started dressing provactively. Iyanla says that is sounds like Karen was looking to have an affair and Karen agrees. Karen says that she even welcomed it. Iyanla thanks her for being honest and then asks is Karen can be okay about the affair now and she says yes. Iyanla asks her if she can be okay that she and Anna have disconnected for now and Karen says no. Iyanla says that this is what they need to work on. Iyanla makes the comment, “drama in the past, drama in the present, I sure hope we lessen the drama in the future.”

Rhonda leads group which is about Bethany. Bethany is carrying a tissue box and she laughs and says that she has not been able to quit crying. She also says that she is very ready to graduate. We see Bethany’s completed steps, her original self portrait and her new one. Rhonda says that this is an early graduation, it is at 1230pm. (I assume it would be because of her flight plans?) As group ends we hear a man signing what sounds like opera outside. Rhonda says group is over and that maybe the ladies should go investigate the singing. There is an opera tenor outside singing and holding a batch of red roses. Allison says that she is pushing Bethany forward and she looks at Rhonda and Rhonda tells Allison that he is there for her. When he finishes singing Allison tells him that is one of her favorite aria’s and he gives her a note. Rhonda in confessional saying that the night before had been emotionally exhausting for Allison and it was a big breakthrough and they wanted to reward her. The card tells her that life can be a romantic adventure and that they were setting her up with a matchmaker.

Bethany meets with Dr. Stan and he asks her what her plans are and she says that she is planning on moving out and going to college. He says that there is one area that they have still not talked about and that is men.

The others are in the kitchen and Iyanla comes in and says that Rachel had wanted to talk to her so they sat down at the kitchen table. Rachel says that she wanted to find out what she needs to work on before she exits the Starting Over house. Iyanla asks her what she thinks she needs to do. Rachel says that she feels that she needs to strengthen her relationships with the women in the house because in the past she always distanced herself from people when she knew she was getting close to leaving. Iyanla told her it was good she recognized that and she needed to store that data in her head. Then she tells Rachel to come with her she has something to show her.

Back to Bethany and Dr. Stan. He says that Bethany has talked about never being kissed. He asks her how her confidence level is. Bethany says that she had 3 dates in one day and she loved it. He asked her if she was intimidated at all and she says no. He tells her that even though he and the other LC’s know she is ready to graduate, they don’t want her to go. He says that he really hopes she would sing for him before she leaves. She giggles and says that she has been crying all day. He just smiles at her and shrugs his shulders. They hug.

Iyanla has the ingredients for chicken soup. She tells Rachel that homemade chicken soup is about family. She says that you take the standard or orthodox recipe for chicken and you can use unorthodox ingredients to make your own “kind” of family. She says that the orthodox family has a mom and a dad just as the orthodox soup has onions. So she is to use leeks instead for hers. They replaced a couple other ingredients and put a big pot of soup on the stove. She said that at the SO house Rachel has made her own unorthodox family and that she can have a family reunion. Rachel gets all excited and says that she has phone calls to make.

Allison meets with Julie from Cupid’s Coach and they put in what she is looking for. She says that she wants them to be tall, funny, charismatic. Her interests are traveling and theatre. Julie is typing in a computer and tells her that she already has two men interested. The first one is a psychiatric nurse. Allison sees his picture on the screen and says that he is good looking. Julie says that he is adorable in person. She assures Allison that there is no shortage of men that would be willing to go out with her. (I notice during this interview that Allison is constantly pulling her sweater over her chest. Its almost like a nervous tic)

The LC’s show up for Bethany’s graduation. Everyone is ready in the kitchen but Karen. Rhonda makes the comment that if Karen is always going to be late, she is going to have a tough time of it in the SO house. They all file into the room and light their candles for Bethany. Rhonda takes us down memory lane of Bethany’s time at the house. Dr. Stan talks about the hypnosis and we hear from Vanessa and Rachel. Bethany and Vanessa say that they are best friends. Bethany’s gifts are shopping trip in New York City with Andy Paige. She has $500 dollars to spend on clothes and they give her a $1000 gift certificate for a computer. Bethany’s statue says, “I know who I am”. Bethany makes her speech and then Rhonda says that there is one thing that Bethany has not fulfilled her obligation on. Bethany looks confused. Rhonda tells the women to get in the limo cause they are going to go karaoke! They go to a karaoke bar and inside are the two biker guys that she and Vanessa hung with, the crossdresser and her 3 dates and of course all the women and LC’s. Dr. Stan introduces her and says that she will be singing “Valentine” by Martina McBride. This is significant because it is the song she sang at the pageant that she won. While she sings they show clips of her days in the house. She has a very nice voice.

Previews-
The new hg arrives and she is blonde and beautiful according to the comments. Vanessa in confessional saying that the new roomie is very embarrassed about what she is having to share.
Tess is still working on her laws of love. Rhonda tells her that instead of just getting the facts that she wants her to get the emotions too. Tess says that she is very afraid of that.

Karen’s dark secret is out. She and Iyanla are by a phone and Karen is crying and saying that she feels like such an idiot.

That is it for today. All right we got new blood arriving. That always stirs the pot!


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I was on a field trip with fifth graders.

Sorry, db was sick and I wasn't around. I didn't spell check or correct Rachael's spelling of her name, hope you don't mind too much. Layne joined today!

Wednesday 4/13

Tess meets with Rhonda and today they are to work on her “love rules”. Today’s is “love is understanding”. Rhonda brings up when Tess was upset with Rachel when Rachel was “rude” to her the day her dad visited. Rhonda tells her that Tess was more interested in being right than in giving Rachel a break. Tess refuses to see that she could be wrong. Rhonda tells her that she is so busy making sure that everyone is respecting her and treating her well. Rhonda says that she is so hyper-vigilant on doing that, that she leaves no room for understanding. Tess has to interview the others on what was their turning point in their lives. Tess says that she is scared by this because she will have to feel.

Layne, the new roomie, is from Fort Madison, Iowa. When she gets out of the limo Allison is looking out the window and she says, “she’s blonde and beautiful, great.” That was said sarcastically.

Group is with Rhonda and Iyanla. Layne has 2 brothers and 2 sisters. She is the middle child. They show a picture of a man in uniform. He is her biological father and he was killed in a car wreck when she was very young. Her mother remarried and Layne calls her step-dad, “Dad”. Her older brother and sister have a different dad. Her mom divorced him and they have no contact with him. Then Layne is the only child of her dad and then her younger brother and sister are the biological children of her mom and step-dad. They show a picture of her at 14. She was a champion flutist and a high achiever. She is very close to her mom but her relationship with her step-dad are not close. Layne has been engaged 3 times but never married. Rhonda asks what she thinks her problem is and Layne says that is one of the reasons she is here. Layne is 39 and says that she wants to see why all her relationships fail. Her first engagement was when she graduated high school. She said he was a great guy and there is no real reason why she broke it off except that she thought there were other fish in the sea. The second engagement was with a guy who lied to her a lot. He lied about what his job was and that he was going to law school and he wasn’t. When she broke up with him he tried to commit suicide. She was engaged the third time when she was 30. Layne is a lawyer. She became athletic for the third guy, such as mountain biking and skiing. She said that she started getting resentful and felt she was changing to please him. Layne says that she feels alone. Layne’s goal is to “become Ms. Right”

Rhonda in confessional saying that Tess does not know how to be a team player. Tess is interviewing Rachel about her turning point. Rachel is telling her about being in the girls school. In confessional Rachel says that she feels that Tess is just trying to rush through this assignment. Then Tess interviews Allison and in confessional Allison says that Tess is not really asking her any personal questions about how certain things felt.

Layne meets with Rhonda to put her steps together. Step one is “evaluate relationships with men. Step two is Stop Family patterns, Step three is embrace commitment and Step four is giving up the marriage fantasy.

Iyanla in confessional saying that Dr. Stan has asked her to talk with Karen about her drama. She says that Dr. Stan does not think that Karen is actually suicidal. Iyanla meets with Karen and wants to know how Karen’s family sees her drama. Iyanla says that later that night they are going to call different family members and ask them about how Karen created drama in their lives. Karen sighs and says that Anna won’t participate and Iyanla says that it doesn’t matter that they have other family members to talk to.

Layne meets with Rhonda at a ring store. The owner shows her 6 rings that range in price from $22,000 to $300,000. Rhonda asks which ring she would pick and Layne picks the $300,000. Rhonda asks the owner if he happens to have any fiancee’s in the back and he says yes and gets up. Layne says that she is afraid one of her ex-fiancee’s are going to walk out.

Iyanla and Karen make their first phone call. They call her 78 yr. old mother and ask about how she creates her drama. It turns out that last night Karen called her mother because the driver was rude to her and she was all upset about it. After they hang up Iyanla starts laughing that Karen called her mom to save her from the rude driver. Karen is in tears. Iyanla says it is the 12 yr. old girl in her trying to get mommy’s attention.

Back to Rhonda and Layne. A guy comes out in all black and a mask on. He has a card that says he is “fianc&eacute;e #1”. Rhonda asks what she liked about him and then what she wanted to change about him. They write it on their cards. They do this with three different guys. Rhonda asks Layne how would she describe this woman. Layne said that she doesn’t know what she wants.

Karen calls her ex-husband Phil and asks if they can talk and he says no that he just got home and is fixing dinner and it is not a good time. He says that she can talk to Rachel if she wants. Iyanla says that is fine and they will talk to him later and he says that is fine.

Rhonda meets with Tess. Rhonda is telling Tess that she won’t let herself be vulnerable and that keeps her from feeling.

Karen’s daughter comes to the phone. Rachel says that Karen would create guilt for herself. Rachel says that she is worried that this is not her place to say this stuff. Iyanla tells Karen to give Rachel permission to say anything. Karen has a hard time spitting those words out and then Rachel talks about Karen mixing pain killers and alcohol and she made reference to Karen being an alcoholic. Iyanla is jotting notes and says in confessional that Karen has never mentioned this and they will have to keep a close eye on her to make sure that this is still not a problem.

Tess calls her husband Vincent. She asks him if he thinks she is understanding of him. He says that in the past he doesn’t think she was but that she is better at that now. Their conversation goes into talking about her reasons behind her having her affairs. It almost goes into an argument. Tess says that they have had these conversations before. Tess calls Rhonda and Rhonda asks how the conversation went with her husband and she says that he had said that he didn’t think Tess knew how much he loved her and that it hurt her feelings and that she got defensive. Rhonda says that is very interesting and maybe Tess doesn’t want to realize it because then she would actually have to forgive him.

Layne is getting ready for bed and in voice over she is saying that the jury is still out on her being at the house. She has high hopes for being able to help find herself in the house.

Preview-

Rachel calls her new found sister. We hear the sister on the phone and she sounds a lot like Rachel and she says “I’m shocked that I have a sister.” (she sounds happy though!) Rachel says that she is not sure how to feel.

Iyanla is with Allison at some appointment and they are telling her that she has to make this life changing decision. Allison is saying that she is pretty horrified.

Layne meets with Dr. Stan and they are talking about that there is something that she never told her parents about that happened 20 years ago.

Thursday 4/14

Allison is talking about how it takes her some time to get going in the morning because her bones are swollen and she just hurts.

Layne meets with Rhonda. Today they are going to talk about her grandfather, step-father and birth father. She is to research on them and write things that she likes and doesn’t like and also what drew her mom and grandmother to them. Rhonda asks Layne if she knows what the point of the assignment is and Layne says to see if there is a pattern.

Allison meets with Iyanla. Allison has been able to destroy her squatters and she now has a “goddess”. Iyanla asks if her squatters are trying to come back to surface. Allison said that yesterday when she saw Layne she felt ugly, fat and disfigured. Iyanla in confessional says that this is a delicious pairing of women. Iyanla asks Allison about how she feels about having her breast removed and did she say goodbye to it. Iyanla tells Allison that they are going to meet with a geneticist and consider the possibility of having to make a decision of removing her other breast.

Iyanla is meeting with Rachel. Rachel is planning a luau to have a family reunion with her “blended family”. She has talked to her brother and dad about coming. Iyanla says that she can invite her housemates so that they can have a part. Iyanla tells her to go to a party store and wants her to take Tess with her. Iyanla in confessional says that she is not buying Rachel’s calm demeanor.

Layne calls her mom and she is telling her about her birth father. He left a wife and children to be with her mom and he felt guilty about it. Layne says that it is hard to even write that down because it feels like she is writing something so negative about someone who isn’t even here.

Allison meets with the geneticist. Allison is giving her family history. Her dad died at 50 from lung cancer and there is cancer on her mom’s side too. Allison says that she is horrified about the news she is receiving that she has to be very diligent on being aware that cancer can return and her family history raises the chances. They talk about a new cancer forming in her other breast or finding a tumor elsewhere in her body that is from her original cancer. The geneticist says that Allison needs to decide what she would want to do if she finds out that there are these genes in her body that indicate how likely it is for her to get cancer again.

Layne calls her grandmother and asks what attracted her to her grandfather. Grandma says that to be honest she started dating him to take him away from a girl she didn’t like. Then they ended up marrying different people. Then they got married later. Layne tells her grandma that these phone calls are making her realize how much she and her mom and her grandma are alike.

Rachel calls her new sister, Clarice. Clarice also was in her 20’s when she met their dad. She says that she is looking forward to them getting to know each other. She is very open to having a relationship with Rachel.

Layne meets with Dr. Stan. She gives him the synopsis on her life. He asks her if she has ever been married and it turns that she did have some kind of a “secret” marriage to her first fianc&eacute;e. (what? Then he shouldn’t be referred to as fianc&eacute;e number one but her ex-husband. I think that is a big difference. JMHO)
She tells Dr. Stan that neither of their families know about it. In confessional Dr. Stan says that Layne has presented herself as the ultimate runaway bride. He wonders what other secrets there are. He tells her that it is strange that here it is 20 years later and she still has never told her mom. She says that she thinks she married him partly because she was raised Catholic and felt she kind of had to marry him because they were sexual. He was her first sexual partner. She talks about how when she went away to college and when she came home that first summer they told her that she either had to move out or pay rent and it hurt her feelings. They made a big deal about her being an adult now and taking responsibility. She thinks that had a lot to do with her deciding to get married. He tells her that he wants her to think about her feelings from her adolescence that don’t fit now and they will talk again.

The geneticist brings up her risk for ovarian cancer and then talking about removing her ovaries. And that throws you into menopause but it reduces your risk 90%. Allison in confessional saying that she is just realizing that her cancer is a lot more serious than she thought. Allison is telling her that she is okay with not ever having children and she looks at Iyanla and says again that she is okay with it and Iyanla does this little laugh. (I think Iyanla is thinking that is not true.)

Tess and Rachel go luau shopping. Rachel seems to be feelinga little weirded out that her “new family” is coming there for her.

Layne meets with Rhonda and is telling her the family history. Turns out Grandma was first married to Grandpa’s brother and it is the family secret. Even though everyone knows about it but they don’t talk about it. Then she tells Rhonda that her dad left a wife and three kids and that she was pregnant with her fourth child. And then she says that her mom and her dad never actually married. She says that they had wedding rings but it was never legal.

Allison meets with Dr. Stan. They talk about her feeling guilty because she feels like she is feeling like her problem is so much more important than the other women in the house because hers is life threatening and she doesn’t think it is fair to them. Dr. Stan says that she shouldn’t feel guilty about it and asks if she talks to them about it and she doesn’t. Then he asks who she relies on the most in the house. She has to answer no one because she stays busy helping them with their problems. He says that she has no problem leaning on him or Iyanla but he wants her to work on leaning on hr roomies.

Layne and Rhonda talk about how hard it is to see her dad in this light of being a cheater. That she has this fantasy in her about different her life would be if they had stayed together and how different her life would be now.

Rachel calls her dad, Jerry and tells him that she talked to Clarice and that she is coming to the family reunion. Jerry says that Rachel will probably like Clarice more than him. He seems to be a real teaser and it throws Rachel a little.

Allison says that she is looking forward to finding out the results from her genetic testing and deciding what to do with her future.

Preview-

Tess hits rock bottom. She is with Rhonda and she is crying and saying that she is afraid of being disappointed and Rhonda asks what would happen and Tess says the real her might come out.

Karen faces her past. Iyanla tells Karen to dress up with attitude. She is having her put on heavy make up and dress provocatively. Karen says that she is finding it easy to dress up like a slut.

Allison has a break down. She is crying really hard and Iyanla is holding her. She looks up at Iyanla and says, “why am I so calm about it?”