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iagree totally with all you said

watch it i was "mean" for far less i think ??????????????

OK VCAP...

I have been listening to you carry on and most of the time don't even know what you are talking about!

I AM OFFENDED by you going on and on about Black Women! You made your point about 10 Posts back! You Do Not Like the Way Tess Appeared on SO....OK, so that point is made!

Now what???? You are making Tess being in the SO House & her issues all about being a Black Woman and that is NOT what Tess was all about! BUT You are entitled to that opinion.

In my opinion now, I think enough is enough about Tess Bashing! When we ourselves bring out negativity, we draw negativity to come out also! This site was NOT formed on negativity! I don't know if you were able to see that by reading past posts....but again, you are entitled to your opinion! But VCAP, no one is going with what you think about Tess's Blackness & how she was chosen for the show nor how she portrayed herself or the SO Show portrayed her!!

OK, CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG.......AND MOVE ON???!!!


BANDITA!
Halfdollar!


**I, too, agree with DB that all the negativity is NOT how we tend to talk about the SOGs and I, too, would NOT want to come to a site and read such hatred about myself ---- no matter who I am!

AMEN!<br><br>Post edited by: Halfdollar, at: 2005/06/16 13:24

Hey All and especially Vcap54,

I too am a black woman, I'm 57 so I've been around a while. Tess's behavior I felt did not reflect on me, she was immature, dishonest, deceitful and had delusions of grandeur, which I do not have, nor do I suspect you either.

Please do not put the &quot;image&quot; of black woman on Tess or Deborah, our race is not the only race that has had women of disgrace or dubious character. I did not relate to either, I still don't know why Deborah was there. Maybe they both came on the show with their perception of what it was going to be like, and found a different set of circumstances they couldn't adjust too.

Now for me Denise's behavior upset me just as much as Deborah or Tess if not more. She was rude, cut-throat, mean, insensitive, a horrible housekeeper and wife, but when she walked out of house she was dress and made up to the nines. What a contradiction. I could also see Sommer's deceit from the beginning, she was another one who came to the SO house for one reason and changed her agenda to fit her means to her own end.

So don't take the ethnicity of the women personally, I don't think that is the intent of the show. Look and learn from their life experiences, some you can relate too and some you can't, and I'm blessed that I never had to suffer sexual abuse. We've all had emotional and psychological turmoil in our life at any given time, but we made it through. The difference is now we have a forum whereby we can watch what other women have experienced and how they've subjected themselves to &quot;our&quot; scrutiny to overcome them and go on and try and succeed in their lives.

I didn't take it personal about Tess or Deborah's behavior, just thought they wasted a chance to really get the help they needed, whether they realized it or not.

Stay Positive, Peace, Love and Joy

Sugah

I guess I'm the only one who would like to see these women still get help. Even Deborah. I wouldn't mind seeing them again and having some success.

I think they should Deborha , Tess , Chrisine 1, Nayanza, Sommer and Kimberlyn all in the house together and see how they do.


the only one I like out of the group is sommer but included her because she was Kicked out.