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Ron came home from work yesterday to tell me that he stopped off at the fire station after work and that his son didn't work at that fire station but they did tell him where he did work, which is alittle farther away from us, but in Riverside, so Ron said he is going to stop there today after work to go see if he's working today .
Gosh, I hope he is there when Ron shows up. There are some major fires going on in the county and hopefully his son won't be out on them. Pray he see's him, I'm still keeping my fingers and toes and eyes crossed for this to happen
Have a great day all

How wonderful he made the step to stop and ask! That is great. Now they just need to meet. Thanks for keeping us informed, Lanie.

Please keep us informed. Good Luck!!

Praying for you and Ron and this possible reunion, Lanie.
Keep the faith and God will provide!

Okay Sista's.
Ron went by the fire station yesterday while he was in that area doing his fishing rod lines. I didn't even say anything to him about it either.
He came home and again, they weren't there.
I asked if he left a note and he said he didn't want to do that, he wants to surprise him.
So this morning we got up and he was going to get me a sundays paper and I said, "Ron, while your getting me the paper, why don't you go by the firestation again and see if Clint is there"?
He said no.
I said "I think you should"
Silence for a few minutes and then he got up and put on his clothes and said" Is a paper all you want?"
I said "No, I want you too "
as he left he kissed me and said, "I'm going by the fire station again okay, so I will be a little longer"
I told How proud I was of him and how hard this must be, and there is a reason why we are doing this all of a sudden so much".
He agreed and now he is gone.
Please pray his son is there and they get to see each other. I feel it will rock his world and that's a good thing.
I'll keep you updated. I think when Ron gets home, he will deserve some sunday afternoon delight.
Better go get ready...lol
Thanks Sista's for your support.

They saw each other!!!!!!
I was so happy for him. Ron had a smile from ear to ear.
So I asked him to tell me what happened and Ron said he saw him and told him that he hasn't been much like a father to him and didn't act very mature regarding getting in touch with him and for that he was sorry. He told Clint that he wanted to know what he could do to have a relationship with him now and what happened between them to lose touch for 8 years. (i thought it was 5 or 6 but it was just b/4 we were married and that's been 8 years. time sure flies).
Clint told Ron it was because of me. HUH????
Clint said I over stepped the line. He didn't tell Ron what it was I said or did but that was the reason. Ron told Clint that whatever it was that he knew it was a good intention and that maybe things were taken wrong.

So now, I'm sitting here upset over something he said I did or said over 8 years ago and didn't tell Ron what it was.
When I first met Ron, he wasn't talking to his mom or step dad and he was going through a divorce and his kids were living with the ex and he wasn't seeing them as much and was getting pissed off he was the one always calling them to get together and they would stand him up. Well Ron didn't like being rejected over and over again that he decided he would just wait until they came to him.
So me and the way I feel about family, I phoned his mom one day to introduce myself to them. Over the course of a month or so, I ended up getting Ron & His mom back together talking and us going over there etc. Then she died 6 months later from cancer, but on her dying bed she thanked me for bringing them together and that's all I wanted to do. I was glad to.
as far as his 3 kids, maybe I did over step the line when I would be in their town and see them outside, I had stopped and asked them why haven't they called their dad. I guess I put myself in their business and I should of stayed out of it. All I wanted to do was get them all together. I was on a mission after the mom. I guess it back fired and so now I feel so so bad for this and Ron said he knows I didn't do anything to keep them away and he knows my intentions were good but Ron said maybe because I am so blunt and honest and don't pull any punches or sugar coat things, that maybe I said something and they took it wrong. I can't stop thinking about it now and I am happy for Ron but feel so bad for whatever I said or did which I can't remember. Ron said it will come out in time and there's always a reason for things. Ron said he knows I've been the one pushing him to go see his kids and he knows I was the one who brought him and his mom together b/4 she died and Ron said I have been a blessing in his life. So why then do I sit here feeling guilty over this?
I want to know now what I did or said. I know I never meant this to happen but I feel like crap now that it was me who kept them apart. Ron said it wasn't. That I didn't make him wait 8 years to go see him, he did. All I've done he said was incourage him and that's true.
Just wanted to let you know that they saw each other and I am so glad. Ron is walking around on cloud 9-10-11-and 12 and I am happy for him but can't get it off my mind now. Should I just let it go or would you want to know what was said or done 8 years ago and apolize for it.???? I mean give me a chance to explain before shutting me out is how I feel.
I'm going to wash my truck and try to not feel bad about this.
Thanks for letting me share this with you. I'm just so bummed right now.
Lanie