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I sat under an oak tree in Wyoming on a summer day, drinking iced tea and visiting with my mother. "Don't forget your girlfriends", Mother advised, clinking the ice cubes in her glass. No matter how much you love your husband, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember to go places with them now and then; and do things with them, even when you don't necessarily want to, And remember that girlfriends are not only friends, but sisters, daughters, mothers, grandmothers and other relatives too. Women supporting and relating to other women is our responsibility and our gift. "What a funny piece of advice," I thought. "Hadn't I just gotten married? Hadn't I just joined the couple-world? I was now a married woman, for goodness sake, not some young girl who needed friends!"

But I listened to my Mom. I kept in contact with my girlfriends and even found some new ones along the way. As the years tumbled by, one after another, I gradually came to understand that Mom really knew what she was talking about!

Here is what I know about girlfriends:

***girlfriends bring casseroles and scrub your bathroom when you
need help;
***girlfriends keep your children and your secrets.


***girlfriends give advice when you ask, sometimes you take it and
sometimes you don't.

***girlfriends don't always tell you you're right, but they usually tell
the truth.

***girlfriends still love you, even when they dis agree with your
choices.

***girlfriends laugh with you and don't need canned jokes to start the
laughter.
***girlfriends pull you out of jams.

***girlfriends don't keep a calendar of who hosted the other's last
big party.



***girlfriends will celebrate for your son or daughter when they get
married or have a baby, in whichever order that happens.



***girlfriends are there for you in an instant, and when the hard
times come,
***girlfriends listen when you lose a job or a friend.

***girlfriends listen when your children break your heart.
***girlfriends listen when your parents' minds and bodies fail.

My daughters, sisters, family, and friends bless my life! When we began this adventure, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other..... Pass this on to your girlfriends/sisters/daughters.. I just did!

Read the next 2 lines very slowly and let it sink in...
If God brings you to it,
He will bring you through it




Curly

Hi
This is soooo true!
I have come across many of my friends by what I always thought was luck.
But when you think about all the dear friends that you have the true one I mean
it was never just a meeting.
Some came into my life when my children were just starting sports. Today we still have this group of five couples who are together and we are all there to support each other. The original group was 15
Of that group the ones closest to us are some of the few who are still married to our original partners
Of all the couple we could have gone with over the years these four other couples are the only ones who would have stayed true friend!

each chapter of my life I have met new friends some only stayed for a while in times of need then moved on, never returning. Others are still on the path of life with me but we do not talk or even write anymore But I know if I ever need them they will be there for me again!

It is Gods way of helping us cope with life lessons. He sends what you need to climb your mountain
Hugs

thanks hugs
that means so much. I feel i have gained new girlfriends here on this site.
curly

that and it gives us somewhere to go each and everyday, if we feel, to unwind and just "CHAT"!!!!

Thanks mom for that story, I thanked you, but not here

I believe in an all-knowing God, past, present, future. I believe He brought us all here for a reason, and He knows when and how our friendships will change and grow, and how long they will last.

I for one, hope we will be talking when our children are getting married and having their own kids!!

take care, and thanks for your kindness--

Guess for me that would be great-grandchildren
Sure know how to make a gal feel old
But then what goes around comes around right Squeeks