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We begin with the ladies going out to a restaurant for breakfast together. Jessica says she is excited to be getting out as a group acting like normal girlfriends having fun and hopes they will be able to get through it without any controversy. Jill says she didn’t get to bed until 5 am because she was working on her necklaces and is not thrilled about going out. As they are sitting at the table, TJ begins to read a newspaper and at the same time a couple behind them begins to fight. They are loud enough to be heard by the houseguests who try to ignore it at first. Allison says that she attracts controversy. She laughs nervously and wonders if they know how loud they are. Lisa rubs her shoulders and tells her to relax. Jill laughs, Allison said she would like to go over and kick the woman’s a**. Everyone but TJ is overhearing the argument and laughing about it. Jessica says something to TJ about her reading the paper and how she is not interacting with the group. TJ looks stern and says she feels bad for the woman, that she is not judging them and thinks the others are making fun of them. TJ then goes over to the couple’s table and tries to bond with the woman, saying she is also a loud person, and did she know everyone could hear her. The houseguests are shocked that TJ did this. Lisa says to the camera that TJ thinks she is Dr. Phil and she wants to feel the woman’s pain. The woman said she was mortified and TJ said yes, she would be too. TJ comes back to the table and refuses to tell anyone what she said to the couple. She said again she wasn’t going to judge them and Jill said no, you’d rather go over there and do it in person. Allison told TJ they were not making fun of the couple. Jessica said she knew they couldn’t get through breakfast without some drama.
Next at group meeting, Rhonda asks how breakfast went. Lisa talks about the couple at the table and how they were arguing and that TJ went over to intercede. Rhonda then tells them that the couple was a plant by Rhonda to see how the houseguests react to controversy. TJ then said that Allie made a comment and then Allie and Lisa started laughing and it made her uncomfortable. Rhonda said honey, you were uncomfortable anyway. Jessica tells TJ she wasn’t uncomfortable until she went over there and spoke to them. Jill tells TJ that if she started reading with a group of people, that says I don’t want to be bothered with you. Rhonda said that TJ made a decision for the entire table, cutting her friends off and decided to make a new friend while leaving them behind. TJ begins to get upset. She says that she is trying to learn, she doesn’t know what to do. If she says she doesn’t know something, then she’s avoiding. If she puts up boundaries then it looks like she’s being defensive, if she says she’s uncomfortable then she makes everyone else uncomfortable. Jill tells TJ to tell the truth. She begins to break down completely. She feels she is being rejected at every turn and not supported by her housemates. Rhonda says that is your perception.
Jill in confessional says that TJ is losing it right now because she’s not saying what she really feels and that the old TJ is certainly rearing her ugly head..
Rhonda says that TJ is struggling to admit she created drama in the restaurant this morning but she’s doing it again in group. She’s concerned that TJ just doesn’t see the connection.
Rhonda tells the housemates that how you feel is determined by what you focus on. If you’re trying to build evidence for your opinion, oh, drama is coming! All the houseguests except TJ admit they are addicted to drama. Rhonda tells them that some people will actually think you are boring and that’s the greatest compliment they could receive because that means you are not addicted to the drama.
TJ later says to Jill outside that she walked into a trap this morning. They both laugh, especially TJ, who says her intuition was a little late on that one. TJ seems to be feeling better and seeing that she fell for a setup.
Ilanya meets with Christina and has laid out several items outside. There is a for sale sign, shoes, food, things that Christina must decide as to what the price of each item is . Christina begins to guess by writing them down and Ilanya says she will be back later.
Ilanya meets with Jill who tells her about her second opinion and how they want her to be in optimal health if the tumor is coming from the uterus. She says the hospital has a program based on income that will help pay her medical costs. Ilanya tells Jill to get her bag of unworthiness and a pair of scissors. Ilanya then begins to cut up the clothing in the suitcase and Jill says it represented anger, depression and laziness. Ilanya tells Jill to finish cutting up the unworthiness, which Jill does and then puts the clothes and suitcase in the trash. She walk away telling herself confidently that she is worth it!
Lisa is very up about finishing her necklaces as she sits with Rhonda to show them to her. She tells Rhonda she feels she deserves an A at this point. Rhonda sends Lisa out to try and sell her 34 (?) necklaces. She is told she must not bring back any necklaces. We then see in the next scene that Lisa is distraught as she sits at a table at Pink’s hot dog stand and is not selling any necklaces. She is just sitting there at the table, doing nothing. She makes a cell phone call to Rhonda in which she leaves a message and tells her she is just not able to get it together enough to sell necklaces today, she needs help, and she is afraid of failing the exercise. She was going to hang up and try and pull herself together to do some selling, but she does not. A man comes by and asks her how much the necklaces are and she said $10. He is willing to pay $5 and she finally sells a necklace. Lisa comes home with all her necklaces but one. She talks to Jill and TJ and is very upset that she will be kicked out of the house at tonight’s Board Of Review.
Ilanya meets with Christina again. She wants her to get a realistic picture of what it will take to support herself and Jackson. Ilanya looks at her prices and most of them are too low. Christina admits is is scary and doesn’t know how she will pay for it all. Ilanya hugs her and says Christina is overwhelmed. She wants her to know there are healthy ways for her to earn the money she needs. Christina says she wants to get her GED and go to Real Estate School. Ilanya tells her that, surprisingly enough, she will be meeting with a real estate agent today. She comes to the house and talks to Christina about the freedom of being a real estate agent and the ability to still be a mom and hold down the job. Christina asks her some questions about the real estate business. She is given information about startup costs. Christina is excited and says she definitely wants to pursue this line of work.
Lisa talks on the phone to Rhonda and tells her she only sold one necklace and is asking to be let out of the exercise. She feels she needs more time and she is scared she will be asked to leave the house for failing her exercise. Rhonda reminds her that she could have gotten rid of the necklaces in other ways and tells her to prepare herself for tonight’s Board Of Review.
TJ feels she and Lisa will be called up tonight. Lisa expects she will be reviewed and very fearful she will be asked to leave because she has not finished her jewelry exercise.
Board of Review
Jill is called up first by Ilanya. They ask her what she is doing well, and Jill says she is transforming by using her assignments and making a plan of action for her surgery. Jill grades herself as an A and says she has given 100 % and the housemates give feedback. Lisa says she has been proactive in the health plan. Ilanya speaks to her as another black woman and says they have learned how to take a punch and then they take them just because they can and they build their lives on it. Jill cries. Ilanya says the result of that is tumors, excess weight, a dream deferred, a life in chaos. She knows the truth about her, saw it on the obstacle course when she was willing to carry baggage, stood on the balcony and asked the universe for what she wanted. She saw the truth when she went into action to make her plan, but why couldn’t it be because it was something she wanted for herself instead of a tumor, so what has shifted so she can stop wearing the superwoman cape? Jill says she is valuable just because she exists. Ilanya says learning is an internal experience that creates a transformation and says Jill’s learned it. Ilanya gives her an A. Lisa smiles uncomfortably and then is called up next. She is asked, what is your goal? Lisa answers to grow up and not be dependent on my parents. Rhonda says take a deep breath, and answer truthfully why are you here? She says because she is tired of being miserable and not accomplishing things. She then begins to defend what she believes are her improvements since the last BOR. In confessional, she says she feels everything is surreal and detached. She then is asked, what are you not doing? She says she is not trusting herself, that Rhonda gave her an assignment and she just doesn’t listen because she doesn’t think she deserves good things to happen to her. She is afraid of being a grown up. Rhonda says this is her 3rd failed assignment and what would she grade herself? Lisa says a “B” because she’s working as hard as she can. She then gets the positive feedback from the housemates. TJ says she has learned acceptance and awareness that she is willing to know and hear and when called on it will acknowledge it. Allison said at first she wouldn’t tackle ½ of what she was given, now she has sacrificed sleep to get it done. Jill said she turned a corner with her parents and took a big chance. The housemates are then asked what she needs to work on. Christina says she tried to always give the right answer and questions her authenticity. Allison says her panic attacks need to get in control. Jill says when she’s panicked she becomes disrespectful, pushes her away as her accountability partner and that makes it difficult to support her, and she doesn’t change. Rhonda tells Lisa she is not sure the Starting Over house is the right place for her. She asks the housemates if she should stay or go. Christina says stay, Allison says stay on probation, Jill and Jessica agree to stay on probation. TJ wants to give her one more chances because she is scared she will be in despair if she leaves but says she should go, she is not ready. Rhonda asks Lisa – where is the enthusiasm? Lisa is bawling. Rhonday says that no one in the SO house has ever failed three exercises in a row before. She asks her if she is ready to fight for her life. Lisa says yes. Rhonda wants to know what are you going to do different? Lisa says I don’t know. The housemates are all looking sympathetic. Lisa starts to cough like she’s trying to throw up but, once again, doesn’t. Rhonda says to dig deep, give up the party attitude and receive your grade as a grownup. All the housemates look sad and stunned as Rhonda holds up the grade and the show ends.
Previews: Rhonda is telling Lisa at BOR that she is beyond probation and she must pack her bags and leave the house tonight. We then see Christina in confessional looking confused and says she doesn’t know what to think, so it’s not clear if Lisa is really going for good or what is happening. TJ meets with Rhonda and talks about not understanding what is going on between her and Allison, if it’s Allison’s doing or herself, and she’s confused. Ilanya sits with Christina and lays out white cards on the table and Christina says she must come clean with Ilanya about her past and what she did to numb the pain.
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