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Thursday November 10, 2005

A photo is passed down the table to Christina and Iyanla asks her who that is in the photo. She says that it is of her when she was an escort. Iyanla asks her where the picture is from and Christina says it’s from an escort website. Iyanla asks her if that picture is still on the website today and Christina gives a defensive and exasperated yes. Iyanla asks her if she is to understand that there is no way to get the picture off the website, and Christina says as she understands there is no way because she signed a release and she was told as well. Rhonda asks her if she has checked into it or called, and Christina says she didn’t want to have contact and she wanted to put it behind her. Iyanla tells Christina that she can’t put that behind her because if Iyanla can find it who else can find. Christina says anyone. Rhonda asks Christina how she is leaving her past behind her and becoming a woman of honor if she is not taking responsibility for what is out there. Christina says that she guesses she didn’t even realize that she had control over it. Rhonda asks her if once an escort always an escort, and Christina says no, the photos are not just on escort websites. She has her photos on a fetish site too. Iyanla tells Christina that the kind of lifestyle and choices and decisions that she has made while she was out there can always come back. Iyanla tells Christina that she encourages her to check it out because most contracts have an expiration date. Christina says ok, she is glad to know this, but she was only 20 and she didn’t know. Rhonda stops her and tells Christina not to use her age and Iyanla tells Christina that what she said is a manipulation. Iyanla tells her that it was easy for her to slip into being 20 and claim that as her way out. Iyanla tells Christina that she is not sure that she is ready to be in the house. She asks Christina how she is going to convince everyone that this is a journey she wants to make. Christina says that she feels like she is putting everything into it, and Iyanla tells her no, because Christina told Iyanla that she only started being authentic a few hours ago. Christina interjects fully authentic. Iyanla tells her that she is either authentic or she isn’t. Iyanla tells Christina that she can’t be half pregnant; she either is or isn’t. Iyanla tells Christina that she needs to let it be known because this is a house of honor. Christina says that she has been authentic throughout her time here in the house. Iyanla throws her hands up and says help me and Rhonda says she knows. Rhonda then says that when things happen to us at a young age and we need mothering whether we like to admit it or not. Rhonda says that sometimes our friends become our best mothers and then Rhonda tells the ladies in the house that some of them could be her mother. TJ raises her hand and says that she knows and that she has said it. Iyanla asks the women if they had seen the picture and what they thought of it. Allison says that she looked in the context that the photo was from her past and there were no judgments. Iyanla tells them to suppose that Christina was their daughter, and Allison says that she would have had the photo taken down or done something. Jessica says that she would have called herself. Iyanla tells the women that they are midwives to Christina and their job is to pull her through, to nurture her, to sister her, or to spank her butt. Sometimes she just needs a spankin’. Iyanla asks Christina if there is anything she would like to add. Christina says no and then Iyanla gives her a C. Iyanla tells Christina that in order for her to stay in the house, she and Christina are going to make a commitment today and an agreement that as long as she is in the house, she will tell the absolute truth at all times as she knows it to be at the time. Iyanla tells Christina that she doesn’t really know what the truth is, and that is ok, because there are no judgments. Iyanla tells Christina that she has to have a full total 100% commitment to forgiving, loving, and saving her life. She then asks Christina if that is acceptable to her and Christina says yes. Rhonda tells her to have a seat, and then they adjourn the BOR. N confessional, Lisa says that the fact that she has been spared temporarily makes her think there is another surprise around the corner that is going to come out and get her when she least expects it. Christina is crying and saying that she can’t believe that Iyanla would try to call her on her integrity about why she is in the house. Christina says that it f’ing hurt. In confessional, Lisa says that she thinks that Christina is discovering who she really is and Lisa thinks that Christina has disowned the parts of herself that she didn’t like, and now is having to face those parts. Lisa says that after 40 years of behaving in a certain way she is having incredible resistance trying to change, so why would it be different for her. Lisa is with Christina and telling her that it is going to be ok and that it will work out. Lisa tells Christina that she worked through her thing, but the thing with Christina being in the house is about being a woman of honor. Christina is weepy and telling Lisa that she doesn’t know all the answers to the questions that she is asked; she really doesn’t. Lisa tells Christina that it’s hard and not to beat herself up. She also tells Christina that if she wants to stay in the house, and she is committed to the process, she will do it. In confessional, Christina says that she is really hurt right now knowing that she received a C and it is discouraging. She says she doesn’t think she has ever felt this hurt, angry, or embarrassed. Christina says that she doesn’t know how she is going to handle it tomorrow. In confessional, Christina says that she wakes up in the morning and the thought races through her head that she should just pack her bags and get the hell out of there. She says that last night at BOR she was called out on things that really hurt her. She says she doesn’t know how to handle it.

Allison calls everyone into the living room and hands out papers as she reads a note. It says please fill out these sheets before group today. It is about Core Beliefs. In confessional, Allison explains that core beliefs are beliefs that have been passed down. She says they are inherited or a legacy and we assume them without really even knowing what they are. Jessica says that being authentic on this is tough.

The sheet reads: Men are ______. Women are _______. Money is______. Sex is _____. Life is _____. Power is ______. Family is ______. Children are _______. Work is _____. Love is ______. Food is ______. I am ______.

TJ’s stuff is on the table and Christina comes over to her and grabs for TJ’s pen, and TJ tells her that it the only one she has. In confessional, Christina says that TJ is being her normal bitchy self. Christina says that she doesn’t want to be messed with and definitely doesn’t want anyone testing her and getting on to her about stupid things because she has more things to worry about than taking TJ’s pen. In confessional, Allison says that she thinks everyone should be sensitive to Christina this morning. She says that some of the more vocal housemates could send Christina back into hiding. Allison is sitting on Christina’s bed and telling her that it is all about her. Allison tells Christina that she can walk out of here or whatever she wants. She says the coaches are there to coach her, guide her, and teach her and having a C is better than having an A in many ways because she will work harder. She tells Christina that she isn’t the first person to be picked on at BOR and she won’t be the last on picked on at BOR. They hug and Christina tells Allison that she loves her.

Iyanla comes in for group and greets Mr. Ozzy. She tells the ladies they have some core beliefs and to let’s figure out what they are. For the first one Christina says that she would have normally said that men are cheaters, but instead she put men are partners of protection. Iyanla tells her excellent. TJ says that family is painful, and Iyanla tells her excellent. Iyanla tells Jill to give a belief that she has held based on experience, and Jill says men leave. Allison says that no man will ever love her, and Iyanla asks what it is based on, and Allison says the past. Iyanla says that the universal definition of belief is a thought fueled with emotion that leads to an experience. Iyanla tells them the thought comes first. Iyanla asks Jill what her first thought would have been around men leaving. Jill says that men don’t want to be with her. Iyanla asks where that thought came from in her life and Jill says that men weren’t around her in her life. Jill says that men were like guest stars and that she would only see them for awhile, but the women always stayed. Iyanla repeats that the thought comes first. Lisa says that hers is that no one taught her how to do anything. She says that her parents didn’t have the patience. Iyanla asks Lisa what that feeling was attached to it and Lisa says that she wasn’t worth it. She starts to cry and Iyanla tells her to let it come up because that it the feeling. In confessional, Lisa says that she thinks she is so emotional in group because not only is she realizing that her core beliefs have gotten her where she is and that her parents are coming. She says she thinks that she got a lot of her core beliefs from them. Iyanla asks Lisa what her core beliefs are about her parents and Lisa says they don’t listen. Iyanla says that they don’t listen, but here they come to talk to Lisa in the SOH and Lisa is already having the experience that they don’t listen. Iyanla asks Christina what was something that she heard over and over as a child. Christina says that she heard that she would either be a stripper or flipping burgers at McDonald’s. Iyanla asks her what the feeling was and Christina says scared. Iyanla says that scared is a child’s response that is equal to adult terror. She tells Christina to give her one situation in her life right now so they can identify the belief. Christina says that at BOR she was scared, and Iyanla asks her of what. Christina says she was scared of not being good enough. Iyanla tells her that the belief created the experience because the BOR is one of the most loving things she will experience because people love her enough to tell her the absolute truth no matter what. Iyanla tells her that she doesn’t think that is something that Christina has had a lot of. Iyanla then tells them that they can change a belief in the snap of the fingers and all they have to do is make a new choice. She tells them that they have to fix it at the level of the mind because it is a belief and you always get what you believe. Iyanla tells them they don’t get what they ask for they get what they believe, because the belief sets up expectations. In confessional, Iyanla says the women don’t realize this isn’t a game at all. She says that it will give the women and herself the opportunity to see exactly what they believe and how it might affect them once they leave the house. She then gives the women some rope rings and tells them to practice getting the rings around the bottles. She also gives Lisa a note from Rhonda and has her read it. The note says that a business expert is coming by to see if her business plan is worthy of a loan. In confessional, Lisa says that when she first reads it she thinks that she doesn’t deserve it, that she’s not worth it, and that he will laugh at her and not take her seriously. She says that she realizes that is only a belief that she has and she can change it. Iyanla tells the women to work on their beliefs today, and then asks Christina to stay after group to talk. In confessional, Christina says that she is definitely dreading having to face Iyanla alone. She says she doesn’t know what to expect, what Iyanla might try to say, and she just isn’t thrilled. After all the women leave the room, Iyanla puts her hands on Christina’s face and tells her that she wants her to know that she hasn’t done anything wrong – not stripping, not escorting because it is what she knew at the time. Christina starts crying and tells Iyanla that she feels like she was lying to her, that it was wrong, and that she didn’t even know she was lying. Iyanla tells Christina that she is right; she didn’t know because of the patterns of behavior and they are going to break them down. Iyanla tells Christina that Miss America lost her crown over pictures that she had no control over. She tells Christina that the reason that it feels so bad right now is because she doesn’t know how to stand in it and she has to be able to stand in it and say that she did it once, but she doesn’t do it anymore.

Jill, Jessica, TJ, and Ozzy are out on the court practicing tossing the rings onto the bottles. Jessica throws one and gets excited because she touched one of the bottles with a ring. In confessional, TJ says that the line is like 25 feet from the bottles. She says they are never going to be able to get the rings on the bottles – not going to happen. Jessica gets one on and does a little dance. TJ exclaims that she got one, and Jessica says yeah, but she was aiming for the other one. Jill says right, and the wind probably carried it over there, but you got one on.

Lisa is telling Christina that she has to present herself seriously. She says that Jessica told her it was easy and to use Excel, but Lisa says she doesn’t know how to use Excel, so it’s not really easy. Lisa says she feels like things are easy for others, but not for her. TJ comes up to Lisa and tells her to look at her. Lisa says that she can’t because she has to print this, and TJ tells Lisa that she needs to look at her because she has to leave. Christina interjects and says no offense, but you just made it all about yourself, TJ. TJ ignores it and asks Lisa if she feels like she is spinning. Lisa says that she is ok now, but she was freaking out because she had to do something that was beyond her grasp at the moment. In confessional, Christina says that TJ is trying to be a life coach again. She says that TJ was telling Lisa to look at her, and Lisa only had 15 minutes to get the business plan done. She asks if Lisa really has time to be making eye contact with TJ and Christina says no. TJ tells Lisa that it is when she is spinning that she fails and tells her to remember that, and then tells Lisa she is going to do awesome. Lisa thanks TJ and wishes her luck with her appointment. Christina tells Lisa that she wouldn’t let TJ talk to her like that. She says she would have told TJ that she needs her space right now and she is making it overwhelming. Christina tells Lisa that when you only have 10 minutes to print out your plan you don’t need someone stopping you to make eye contact, and that TJ made it all about her.

Iyanla meets with Allison and asks how she is doing and Allison says that she is having trouble. Iyanla asks how she feels, and Allison says confused. Iyanla tells Allison that she has a lot triggered up, and then asks what is triggered. Allison says feeling stuck in the beliefs that she is fat and ugly. In confessional, Iyanla says that Allison is still struggling with body issues. She says Allison needs to realize that she is whole and beautiful, and until she believes that no one in her life will be able to. Iyanla tells Allison that she wants her to hear that there is nothing to be fixed. Allison has tears falling down her cheeks and comments about the silent tears. Iyanla tells her that those silent tears come from the marrow of her bones. Iyanla says that silent tears are dangerous and then asks Allison if she cried silent tears about her breasts. Allison says yes, and Iyanla asks her if she has grieved her breasts. Allison says no. Iyanla asks if Allison can or has fully accepted her reconstructed breasts. Allison says that she is getting there and when she looks at them she still thinks they are not her. She says that as long as she stays covered it will be ok. Iyanla tells her that one day she will have to become uncovered in the presence of someone other than the doctor and says that it must be pretty terrifying. Iyanla tells Allison that they get to a point where she can’t help because she doesn’t know and hasn’t been there, but she can find someone who does know it. She is having Allison meet with a woman named Tia who was in the same exact situation. Iyanla tells Allison to speak to Tia from the place of the silent tears because Iyanla can’t go there because she doesn’t know that. Iyanla tells Allison that she does know that a lesser woman couldn’t sit where she sits.

In confessional, Rhonda says that TJ has a difficult time making friends outside of her husband. She says that now at the SOH she is recreating that difficulty of making friends and establishing intimacy. Rhonda says that unless TJ is willing to embrace the beliefs of others and give up some of her own, she is afraid that TJ will leave the house the same way she came in – without friends. Rhonda tells TJ that in the past she has seen everything in black and white. She says TJ wants to be right and be heard and she will talk until she is blue in the face to be heard. Rhonda tells TJ that will be practicing grey today by going out and asking people questions about grey areas. In confessional, Rhonda says she is asking TJ to interview a variety of people about their opinions of certain questions. She says the questions are definitely in the grey and asks if TJ will be ok with that, or will she blow a gasket.

Edward Jamison arrives to meet with Lisa. Lisa shows him to the table and then goes to the kitchen and pours some water in some wine glasses and brings them back to the table. Lisa asks Edward to tell her something about himself so she can relax. He says that he is a business attorney; he gives people advice on business plans, and how to implement them, and to also help people with credit situations. Lisa tells him that she doesn’t have a credit card and that she has been a secondary card holder on her father’s card. He tells her that is good, because his credit will show up on her report. He asks Lisa to tell him about her business plan because she sounds like she is going to need it. She tells him that she is going to buy jewelry at wholesale, and then hold jewelry parties, networking, and word of mouth in her home so that she won’t have to pay rent or mark the jewelry up as much as retailers.

Christina and Jessica are outside and Christina asks if TJ is still there or if she had left. Jessica says that TJ left and Christina says they need to have a talk with that girl. Jessica asks why, what is she doing. Christina tells Jessica that Lisa only had 10 minutes to finish her thing, and that TJ was acting – talking to Lisa like she was 3. In confessional, Christina says that she is on probation and she doesn’t want to blow up on TJ, but TJ is driving her crazy and Christina doesn’t know how much longer she can stand it.

TJ is on the street and asks people her questions. You come early one day and find your roommate’s boyfriend prancing around in women’s underwear, do you tell her? Some say yes, some say no, and one woman says she hasn’t had a roommate’s boyfriend in 40 years. Next, she asks if having dinner at the in-laws, and they served cow tongue, would they eat it. Some say hell, no, some would go for it, and some would say they would try it.

Allison meets Tia and they talk about their similar situations, and then they remark about having the same scars. In confessional, Allison says that she notices right away an energy about Tia and that she just can’t stop looking at her breasts. Allison laughs and says that Tia has the best boobs. Tia says that a month after her 30th birthday she was reading a book and she felt a lump and didn’t know what it was. Tia says she had ultrasounds, mammograms, and the doctor told her they needed to biopsy it. He called her back and told her it was cancer. Tia says she had to have a mastectomy at 30. Allison says that her tumor was 7cm and that they took the fat from her stomach and had breasts reconstructed that way. Tia tells Allison that she got 2 in 1 and that woman in this town pay a lot of money for a tummy tuck and a boob job. Tia asks Allison if she feels like she is damaged good, Allison says kind of. Allison tells her that when, not if, it is the right person, it won’t matter. Tia asks Allison if she knows that men will love her, and Allison says yes, but Tia keeps prodding her. In confessional, Tia says that Allison believes that she is loveable and she believes it to an extent, but not with an intimate, serious relationship. Tia says that if Allison doesn’t believe it, no one else will. Tia tells Allison that it is the confidence that she needs to have in herself that will attract the right person. She tells Allison that she has to put herself out there, but it will work. Allison asks Tia if she is with someone now, and Tia says yes, and that he is there nearby, and asks Allison if she would like to talk to him. Tia says she would love for Allison to hear his story.

Lisa is with Edward Jamison and he tells Lisa that before he gives her feedback, he wants to hear the rest and see where this is going. Lisa goes over the rest of her plan, and talks about packaging her jewelry in satin pouches with a zipper like they do in Asia. She asks if it sounds feasible, and he tells her that it sounds great. He also tells her that it doesn’t sound like there is a lot of risk involved and that as long as she sells herself and picks the right products, it should work out. In confessional, Lisa says that she at first she is suspicious that he is going to laugh at her and not take her seriously. But he is very enthusiastic about her plan, and says it’s a great idea, so now she sees it is a real possibility. She walks him to the door and he wishes her good luck. She thanks him, closes the door, and then walks away saying that he was a hottie.

Tia’s boyfriend Indy greets Allison with a hug and tells her that he has been looking forward to this. Allison says that she has too. In confessional, Allison says that she can see that Indy is a this artsy guy with long dreadlocks, and she says that she is really pleased that they have such a trusting relationship that they are able to speak so openly, and that Allison can ask questions. Tia explains how they got together and he was a customer where she worked, but she always just treated him like a customer. Indy says that he knew her before she got the cancer running around with her long hair, but didn’t pay much attention. Indy says that when Tia came back she only had stubble, but she was gorgeous, and that you could see a passion for life that Tia had. Indy said not even talking to her you could just see the passion in her. Tia says cancer, no cancer. Boobs, no boobs. Hair, no hair. Allison asks Indy if her freaked out about the scars the first time and if he found the disturbing. Indy says the truth is that he didn’t flinch one moment. In confessional, Allison says it’s nice to see how wonderful it is that a man can love you with imperfect breasts and cancer. Allison says she hopes it could happen to her. Tia says that she thinks they should go do a girly thing at a shop down the street to have some fun. Allison says yeah. Allison hugs Indy and thanks him for the advice and says she really appreciates it.

Rhonda meets TJ on the street and asks TJ why she thinks Rhonda gave her the exercise to come out and interview perfect strangers about topics that are not so clear. TJ says that it’s because everyone has a different opinion. Rhonda asks her if she means there is no right answer. TJ says that everyone has different values, morals, and beliefs and that’s ok. Rhonda says if there is somebody I know named TJ, always talking and deciding what people believe or feel when she in conversation with them, how does that help your communication. TJ says that it limits it drastically. Rhonda asks TJ what would happen if she was no longer judging, deciding, and critiquing. TJ says that she thinks it would be great, but she thinks that it is so ingrained she won’t be able to stop it.

Tia and Allison go to a lingerie boutique. Allison says she really is not putting on something like this. Tia says that it is going to be fun. In confessional, Allison says that she and Tia walk into this shop with beautiful lingerie and she is thinking that there is no way she will be able to fit into any of that. They look at a flowing white negligee and Tia says that she wears one all the time at home to build her confidence. Allison whispers that she doesn’t think that there is anything that will fit her in the shop. In confessional, Tia says she is not so sure than Allison is having fun trying on the lingerie. She says Allison is focusing so much on the negative, but she hopes in time Allison will get more comfortable and used to it because it doesn’t matter what she looks like on the outside. Tia says on the inside, Allison is a truly, truly beautiful person.

At the house, Lisa calls her dad and he tells her that she sounds great. She asks if they heard anything and he tells her it will be tomorrow morning. Lisa’s mother gets on the phone and tells Lisa that she can’t find her clothes. Lisa asks her mother what she means by she can’t find her clothes, and then asks her mom if she knows how funny that sounds. Lisa asks her mother what belief she has about herself that she can’t find her clothes. Her mom says that she doesn’t know, but she wishes she didn’t have it. She tells Lisa that she wanted to find the orange pants and the cool top, and she wanted to look so good. Lisa tells her mother to think about what she is saying and then tells her that she is making excuses. Lisa dad interjects and asks if someone is going to meet them at the airport. Lisa tells him she’s sure. Lisa tells her parents that group was about core beliefs and that core beliefs will really screw you up. Lisa’s dad says he is going to let the girls talk, and Lisa stops him and asks him why is running away and he doesn’t want to listen to what she is saying. Lisa tells her dad that she thinks he should say on the phone because she is discussing something that, and her father says he will stay. Lisa says that she is trying to explain something and that she had an exercise today and she thinks it will be helpful to “mommy”. Lisa says that her mother’s experience is that she can’t find her clothes, and then asks what the belief behind that is. Her father says not to ask him. She asks her mother what she thinks, and her mother says she doesn’t know and then asks Lisa if this is what they do to her. Lisa says yes, and her mom says very good. Lisa then says you don’t get what you ask for, you get what you believe. Lisa’s mom tells her very good, and Lisa says she just wanted to share that with her mother. Lisa’s mom tells her that she has completely changed in one month. She says my god, a lot of different thoughts. Lisa tells her mom that is why she is at the house.

Allison comes out in t black lace shirt with a purplish-blue bra showing at the very top. In confessional, Allison says that if she could feel confident enough to wear these kinds of bras and clothing every day, that she would probably have a better self image. She says wouldn’t that be something. Allison comes out wearing a pink lacy shirt and Tia tells her that she looks awesome in that. Allison hides behind the curtain and Tia snatches it away and tells Allison she can see how much she is glowing, and Allison looks beautiful in this top. Allison looks in the mirror and says very pretty. Tia asks her if she means that, and Allison says she does. In confessional, Allison says that although she feels sexy, she is not quite ready to buy anything yet. They leave the store, hug, and Tia tells Allison to call if she has any questions.

Jessica asks Christina how her talk was with Iyanla. Christina tells Jessica that it was good and she tried to get out some emotions and trying to be in the moment and tell her what was in her head. Jessica asks her if it was good or hard. Christina says she didn’t feel like she was getting it all out because she isn’t really in touch with it. Jessica asks Christina if she heard Iyanla say that group was the most loving places. Christina says yes. Jessica says that it would take a very strong and evolved person to be in that situation and say they feel the love. Christina says that it felt like everyone was giving up on her and she was giving up on herself. Jessica tells her that she thinks it is staying committed that is important. In confessional, Christina says she feels like she is struggling to make it, but she is determined to make it and graduate, and live the life she wants to live.

In confessional, Iyanla says that she is checking in with Allison to see how her meeting went with Tia and to how the ladies have been practicing their special assignment. Iyanla asks Allison how it went, and Allison says that she had a really good time. Allison says that Tia is wonderful and that she also got to meet Tia’s boyfriend. Allison tells Iyanla that they had fun in the lingerie store, but she would pull things out and think there was no way she would fit into them, but she looked great it them. Iyanla asks Allison what was the one thing that Tia said that could be taken away. Allison says that the scars don’t matter anyway. Iyanla asks her if it is good to know and if it gave her any inspiration and hope. Allison says yes to all. Iyanla asks her then if she got to practice throwing her rings on the bottle, and Allison tells her no, because she had been out all day. Iyanla tells her to come with her.

In confessional, Iyanla says that the ladies have been working on their belief system and didn’t even know it. She says she is going out to the tennis court because she has a point to make. Iyanla comes out and the ladies are out practicing. Iyanla asks who has gotten the most on and Jessica raises her hand and says she got 4. Iyanla asks to see, and Jessica stands on the pink line and tosses her ring. Iyanla asks Lisa if she could borrow her rings, and then walks up to the bottles with the rings and asks the ladies why they can’t just walk up and put the rings on the bottles. Allison says it is because they have a belief that they were supposed to stand on the pink. Iyanla asks who told them they had to stand on the pink, and Allison says not a damn soul. All of the women were stunned and laughing and Iyanla asks them if they understand now how they can get sucked into a belief. They all say yes. Iyanla tells them to imagine how many things in their lives, that they are living, are based on a belief that hasn’t been proven or given to them. In confessional, Iyanla says that she hopes this assignment has made them aware of how beliefs affect them, and more importantly she hopes they don’t go back to their old beliefs once they leave the house. She wishes them a good night and leaves.

Rhonda comes to the door and Lisa says it’s for her and runs and gives Rhonda a hug. In confessional, Rhonda says that she thinks that Lisa’s toughest day is around the bend because her parents are coming to the SOH in a mere 24 hours. Rhonda wonders if Lisa is really ready and if her confidence is ingrained enough to stand up to her parents and claim her independence. Lisa tells Rhonda that the business expert made her think in a whole new way. Rhonda says really. Lisa tells Rhonda that he thought her idea was a great idea, and that it is his job to assess these things, and he wasn’t just saying it to say it. Lisa tells Rhonda that she called her dad and told him the idea and he thought it was a great idea, and that her mother said that she had already been gone a month and she sounds like someone else. Rhonda and Lisa laugh. Rhonda says that they are coming to the SOH soon so it will be like they are meeting someone else. Lisa says that it is a whole new dynamic when she talks to her parents and she feels like they are taking her more seriously and Rhonda asks who is taking Lisa more seriously, and Lisa says that she is. Rhonda tells Lisa that people treat you as you train them. Rhonda then gives Lisa $100 and says that she wants to be her first investor. Rhonda says that she invested in Lisa last week and she failed her assignment, but that was the old Lisa. Rhonda says that she is talking to the new Lisa and investing her money in her and for her future. In confessional, Lisa says that she is really nervous about her parents coming tomorrow. She wants to see if they notice the change, but she is worried that they will trigger her so much that she will go back to square one and forget everything that she has learned.

Next on Starting Over: Lisa unleashes her fury. Lisa says that she can not control this anger. In confessional, TJ says that Lisa is saying that her mother is driving her crazy, and TJ says it’s a mirror. Sucks to be you. Christina fights back to save her future. Christina is with an attorney and he says that this will pretty much let them know that if they don’t pull the pictures they will be sued. Jill faces a scary reality. Jill says that she thought the other things were more important and Dr Stan says that she can’t be in denial anymore because she has to take care of herself.