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Forgive...a word that my husband and I completely disagree on what it means or how one does that.

I thought God wants us to forgive a person so we can get on with our lives and be a complete whole person that he wants us to be. A state of mind with ourself and has nothing to do with the person we are forgiving.

Horrendous things like murders is different because of the process of grief and all that is involved in that process before even reaching a "thought" of forgiveness.

If a evil person robs me of one life shall we let him rob me of two--myself? In horrendous things can I humanly forgive? How about I give it to God and let Him carry that for me--I can't.

My husband thinks one forgives by taking all the evil another dishes out. And I think he is just "full of it!"

Mistyblu,

I think along the same lines as you do...

That forgiveness is as much, if not more for the giver as it is the receiver. Otherwise it can eat you alive..

Fortunately I haven't been in a place where I really had to forgive some agregious sin... I'd like to think I could move past it.. I know they'll get theirs eventually... even if I were unable to forgive in the fullest sense of the word.

Sometimes getting past little grudges can be obstacles! Or sins perceived against others, where I'm not even involved. Just hard to embrace people who don't acknowledge their own wrong doing.

Definitely doesn't mean being a doormat!