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Thanks, I went Saterday and it wasn't a good visit. She acted like I wasn't even around, and got mad when her 12 or 13 year old step-daughter was rude to me and I told her that I have always respevted her and she needs to do the same for me. My mom said ok that's enough just drop it, I told her ok well I wasn't going to put up with disrespect and from a really rude 12-13 year old at that. I was pushed off to the side and left alone so I just got up and went outside and stayed by myself for the longest and had to hold back from crying, but hey thats life I guess. I'm use to being hurt all the time and by her the most, just have to keep going on and not give up. Just continue to pray for her and my dad both and not give up on them or turn my back on them just because they did me like that.

Take care and God Bless
Sue

Sue,

Try not to be too discouraged. And definitely keep praying!
If you can glean some of the lessons of this past seasons SO ladies. Kim was still trying to work out an adult relationship with her mom... Christy still had problems with issues of her childhood and mom but was able to let go of the bulk of them once she was able to see her mom as another woman with her own unique set of parents. I think she was able to even embrace her rather than despise her.. which is how it came across prior to their meeting.

You might consider the fact that your parents raised you a blessing..and opportunity. Try to look at your own mom in the way Christy wound up being able to look at her mom.. Having her own unique problems and just an inability to cope..

Now that you are a young woman, you can concentrate on building a stable life for yourself. Concentrate on education or job opportunities that will allow you gain self esteem and independence.

Your mom does not have it in her at this time to be the mom you crave. Maybe one day... Just don't blame yourself..

It really sounds like she just doesn't have any parenting skills.. and maybe other issues exist that exacerbate bad parenting skills.

Good luck to you... Don't give up on that idea of mentoring or tutoring young people. I remember you were interested in doing that!

Thanks for updating us... I had wondered how it went.

Yeah I'm not allowed to see my mom anymore, she threated me so now I can't see her again. She hasn't called me or spoke to me since Saterday like I knew she would do, but I guess it's her loss not mine. Well that's how I try to look at it anyways, she's the one who has missed out on my life and all the success I've had because of the grace of God and all He has done for me. I'm not giving up on anything now, made it to far and to long to do that.

Take care and God Bless always,
Sue

Sue, I just realized I miswrote a sentence in my previous post... and rather than just edit it...I want to make sure that you know that In this sentence "You might consider the fact that your parents raised you a blessing..and opportunity. " I don't how I made that huge boo boo...but I meant that they DIDN'T raise you a blessing!
It sounded like you were very close to your grandparents..

You sound like you have a good attitude about it... or at least understand and accept the situation for now.

I'm sorry for making the mistake. Someone could read that and think I'm whacked! It was not at all what I meant.... I think your grandparents could have been your greatest gift.. and they probably parented you better than your own mother ever could!

You go girl! Keep your chin up and don't let her get the best of you!

It's ok, I did notice that when I read it but it's ok. I knew what you ment, and yes you can't seperate my Grandparents and I we're so close with each other. They mean the world to me and God is first in my life, and then they are all I have other than God, but I'm so blessed and happy. I coulden't ask for more than I have.

Take care and God Bless always,
Sue

Sue, you sound like such a sweetheart!

I'm going to give you a cyber hug! (((Sue)))

May God bless you too!