Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Hey girl,

I am so sorry for what you are going through, I am hoping that you can find a safe place before he really hurts you. I am an ex wife and I think that it took alot of courage for you to make that phone call. I was not abused in my marriage, other issues forced my divorce. I would absolutely be open to any questions that another woman would have for me concerning my marriage, I would not hold back. If a man is divorced there is a reason for it and we always want to beleive what the man has to say as far as past relationships go. The men make the women out to be the bad guys, but divorce happens for a reason and it is not always the womans fault. My sister went through the whole blame the ex wife mess and now she sees why her husband was divorced in the first place, now she and his ex are friends. I just would hope that who ever my ex meets would want to know the circumstances of his divorce and if she wants the truth, she would have to come to me. He is the ultimate mama's boy and that was the problem for us, my sister's are experiencing the same thing, mother in law drama that has threatened their marriages. My ex husbands brother wife walked out on him for the same reasons. I know I cannot relate to your problems, but please be free to vent if needed. We are all women here and when one of us is getting hurt, we all hurt for you. Please keep yourself safe. Love should not have to hurt, it is a feeling that should make you feel good about yourself. Peace to you and take care.

Cyndi

Hey girl,

I am so sorry for what you are going through, I am hoping that you can find a safe place before he really hurts you. I am an ex wife and I think that it took alot of courage for you to make that phone call. I was not abused in my marriage, other issues forced my divorce. I would absolutely be open to any questions that another woman would have for me concerning my marriage, I would not hold back. If a man is divorced there is a reason for it and we always want to beleive what the man has to say as far as past relationships go. The men make the women out to be the bad guys, but divorce happens for a reason and it is not always the womans fault. My sister went through the whole blame the ex wife mess and now she sees why her husband was divorced in the first place, now she and his ex are friends. I just would hope that who ever my ex meets would want to know the circumstances of his divorce and if she wants the truth, she would have to come to me. He is the ultimate mama's boy and that was the problem for us, my sister's are experiencing the same thing, mother in law drama that has threatened their marriages. My ex husbands brother wife walked out on him for the same reasons. I know I cannot relate to your problems, but please be free to vent if needed. We are all women here and when one of us is getting hurt, we all hurt for you. Please keep yourself safe. Love should not have to hurt, it is a feeling that should make you feel good about yourself. Peace to you and take care.

Cyndi