Starting Over Talk - Peer Coaching Support Site

Hello! I am new here but I am not a new fan of the show. I've been watching since the end of the first season. I have learned so much in that time. Every day I hear something on the show that is so profound that it leaves me thinking.

It's so funny that I can find something to relate myself to in just about every woman who has entered the house. Take Lisa for example. When she entered the house on the show I had just found out that my husband had an online affair. He never physically cheated on me like Lisa's husband did but he still betrayed my trust. When Lisa first arrived I kept looking at her and thinking that I knew her from somewhere. I kept thinking "Where do I know her from?" Well, as the show progressed I realized that I saw myself in her. I was the victim in my own mind and If I hadn't been watching the show I probably would've stayed in that mind set for the rest of my life. I would've punished my husband for the rest of my life whether or not I kicked him out or let him back in. My husband and I are working very hard to establish a healthy marriage and it is really tough but I know that we have the potential to have an amazing relationship.


Iyanla has repeated this one phrase several times on the show and it has always stuck with me but I didn't trully understand what it really meant until just couple of weeks ago. "The truth will set you free." About a month ago I started painting. When I was working on my second painting I thought a lot about what that really meant and I became so full of joy and love for myself. I even named my painting "The truth will set you free." The truth is everything I ever doubted in myself was a lie. Ladies, that voice that we hear in our heads that tells us we're not good enough, or we're too fat, or we're not smart enough is a LIE. I feel like I was given a gift right before I needed to put it to use, because a couple of days after I finished that painting I found out about what my husband was doing. With much honesty between me and my husband we've been able to get to the root of our problems.

I am a huge advocate for any woman to watch the show because I'm sure anyone can relate to these woman in some way or another. I hope this message board will be like having a support system that all the ladies in the house have.