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I have to share a story,and see if anyone can relate about a hard headed husband!

I made an appointment for my husband to have an appointment for a complete physical. The appointment was made for 3 weeks prior,and when I told him about the appt. he said "I don't need a physical, I had one 3 years ago"! I told him he needed one,and he was going. Well as the weeks got near,I noticed my husband got grumpier (very unusual) Today he woke me up at 7:10am and said where is the credit card,I have to go( we are 10 minutes away),I said no ya don't the appt. is at 9. He said you told me 8am and I'm going on to work. I said wait a minute (I looked at book and said your right it is 8am )he said something under his breath (like a child would ),and I said be quiet . He jumped up grabbed his lunch,and said Im going to work, I'm not going! Out the door he went and off to work he went. He hates dr's and, I believe he was looking for an excuse,and any excuse would do!

My husband is a very loving,caring person and a good provider, but at times he is so hard headed. Does anyone else have a hard headed husband?

Has he ever reacted this way before?

I don't know why or how but in our marriage we have each taken on responsibility of our own health care appts. My hubby is more diligent about staying on top of his health issues.. and I being the one who tends to procrastinate. I think for myself, I tend to dread certain dr's... and have a negative association with the process.. Maybe your husband dreads going back after his last physical. Some doctors love to lecture and will quickly remind you of what you were supposed to do after the last visit..
Kind of inadverdantly scolding us..

We just switched our health insurance and had to start from scratch finding new health care providers (we were with Kaiser!) I happened to go in today... and they had clearly posted no shows for appts and procedures would be charged. No show for a physical was $60! A regular appt was only $25.. I had to sign a paper agreeing to pay for these various fees if I ever didn't show for an appt. and also letting me know that if I had 4 no shows they would not see me again professionally. Or I guess a nice way of putting it is they'd kick me (or whomever) out for wasting their time!

If you and your hubby get billed for not showing up... He may have regrets. Maybe he'll surprise you when he gets home and actually have gone to his appt afterall!

I hope that's the case!

My hubby did help me with my medical care and appts. in the past year and half..when I was having major ear problems resulting in hearing and communication problems. His involvement was more the exception than the rule! Maybe we fell into our habits because it was easier for him to make his appt's and schedule them around his work meetings and stuff. I always took care of the kids appts. and shuttling them to and fro.. and being their advocate.

Good Luck Kgurl.. I'm sure he knows he needs a new physical.. and hopefully will get in there soon. He owes you an apology, and a big hug and kiss for caring so much!<br><br>Post edited by: KPW1956, at: 2007/05/24 13:18

Great words, KPW. I agree. I know I hate to go back to the doctor if my blood sugar has been too high. They always do an A1C which measures your average blood sugar for the last 3 months. They also hook your blood meter into their computer so they can see all the readings and times you have tested your blood sugar. Talk about being held responsible. There is no way around it. If you're slack they know it.

Then you get weighed which is the worst. I can understand how hubby might not want to go, however you really have to anyway. That's part of loving your family and caring enough to ensure you stay around as long as possible.

What makes me take medical care seriously is that there are so many things that are curable if caught early.

I will offer this tip although it sounds morbid. If you are in your 20's-40's and in good health, go ahead and get disabilty insurance and/or health insurance and life insurance. Do it before you get diagnosed with a disease or condition that will forever ban you from qualifying.

I have a friend who was diagnosed with Type I diabetes (formerly known as Juvenile). This is not the kind you can take pill and lose weight and cure. It is permanent shut down of all insulin production. Nothing will change that. She was in her 30's just like me. Now she can't get insurance. Thank God I had it, but I can't get disability insurance and long term care is difficult to get too. I didn't think it would happen to me. You can get Type I anytime, no matter how old you are. Supplies cost hundreds of dollars per month. I don't know how you could afford it without insurance.

Thanks ladies! BTW, Hubby came in smiling and singing like nothing never happened. I of course had to have the last word. I glared at him and said,you need to be ashamed of yourself! I told him more than likely he will be billed. I contacted the office at 7:45am and got a machine,so I patiently waited until 8am when they opened. I was put on hold for 10 minutes,and was told it wouldn't be a cancelation,because his appointment was 8am and he was a no-show! The world has come to money hungry people,but if hubby had went we or I woudn't have this mess!

Hugs K-gurl!!!! Hubby isn't this way beCAUSE of the being billed if he doesn't show up!!! AND........because I've told him I don't want to raise teenagers alone!!!!